An excerpt from my general comference talks, this is on marriage and divorce
This is as the title as an exceprt. Just one of the talks that was given, this by Dallan H. Oaks of the quorm of the 12 Apostels. I found it very thought provoking. and intersting. Chances are by tomarrow you will be able to find the exact document tomarrow on www.lds.org I will probably provide a link to it for anyone who wants to read it. I think it does say something interesting. maybe I'm a romantic but, it says a lot to me and it realy touched me.
Dallan H. Oaks
- Divorce touches most families in the church
- The concept of marriage is in danger
- It can be easier to get divorced than fire an unwanted employee
- Many who marry withhold full commitment.
- They are ready to run
- Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wife.
- He who puts away his wife except for forenication and marry another commits adultery
- There are many who are good members who are divorced
- When a marriage is dead and beyond all hopes of ressisation
- All who have been threw divorced need the healing power of the atonement
- Married couples need to learn to forgive
- Divorce is not an all purpose solution
- Persons are a lot more capable to return to happiness in event of death then divorce
- Children suffer the most from Divorce
- Family instability causes less happiness for the child
- Sexual promiscuity
- Drug addiction
- Gangs relations
- Bishops do not council memembers to divorce
- Provide alternate solutions
- If the body is sick we do not give up we fight to keep it alive.
- Marry a best friend
- Be partners in the money issues
- If one of them goofs up
- Forgive them
- To the goof up: make it right, and do something special.
- Your humble and united pleadings to god will help strengthen your marriage.
- Divorced couples have:
- The individuals don’t take much of the blame
- They blame the spouce
- If they
- prayed together
- Read scriptures together
- There is no proof that unhappily married people are less happy than divorced
- If you just stick with it you will be blessed.
- The best way to avoid divorce from an abusive person is don’t marry them.
- It takes a lot of individual dating and courtship to get to know a person.