Girl breaks guy's heart and destroys his life. Well should I apologize for being human?
Like any other girl, I am often heard complaining about the opposite sex. I am especially known for my hatred of "pigs" aka the guys who use girls to get what they want and the guys who only want sex. They are a particularly hated species within the male genus, and it would be best if they would just become extinct. However...
You know why they are still around? And you know why they have an uncanny ability to use and lose girls? Because we let them. We let them tell us what we want to hear, we give them what they want, hoping that they're different but deep down we know they are the same as any other male chovinistic pig who just wants some action. We take the time to try to make it work, and we try to make them change, and we do everything that we possibly can to make it work and to make them feel the same way about us that we feel about them...but while we're doing this, we know in the back of our minds that it's just a waste of time, a lost cause.
Then there are the times we tell ourselves that we ok with just random hook up with our guy friends. We tell ourselves we can put a wall up and it won't matter. That the next day everything will go back to the same, we'll still be content with being "just friends" and that we'll be ok pretending nothing ever happened. Then, it gradually begins to sink in what we did. That wall? Yeah it wasn't put up. It's non existant. We're females. We have feelings. We have too many feelings. We're too emotional. Oh, and we get attached way too easily. Don't you dare sit there and say you don't get attached. I say it all the time, but I know I do so I know you do too. Go ahead and deny it, but you're really just wasting your time.
And I think my favorite situation is the "go to" situation. This is one I am guilty of and particularly familiar with. There are three different versions of this. The first is where the girl is lonely and finds a guy willing to make her feel wanted and cared about and loved for oh, say an hour or two? The second is the guy who is lonely and finds a girl willing to make him feel wanted and cared about for a couple hours. The final is the mutual usage. Allow me to elaborate:
The boy is on a break from his girl, and the other girl was just recently hurt. The girl runs to him and uses him, and lets him use her. She tells herself that she really is ok with it. That she knows things won't ever work out, and that she's completely ok with it. Then as time goes by, it starts to sink in what she's done. What was innocent fun becomes hurt and guilt. This turns into a feeling of almost worthlessness. She realizes that what she's done was wrong. It was a mistake. And while she told herself she'd have a wall up, she realizes she never did. She realizes the mistake she made. It hurts to know that her head was on the same pillow that his girl used to lay her head on. And that when his girls comes back, she will lay in the exact same spot that the go to girl was in. Meanwhile, his girl will never know what happened, and the thought that another girl laid in "her spot" will never cross her mind, not once.
Guys will continue to use girls and girls will continue to use guys. It's an particularly odd and vicious cycle we've created. We use eachother and complain about it. We complain about how there are no good guys left, and they complain how there are no good girls left. The thing is, we use eachother so much that we've just lost faith and hope in eachother. If we could just stop using eachother, we might realize just what we could have. Our eyes would become open to that perfect person sitting in the shadows, waiting for us to come to our senses.
But by the time we come to our senses, it's often too late because they're tired of waiting, and they want someone much much smarter.
You know why they are still around? And you know why they have an uncanny ability to use and lose girls? Because we let them. We let them tell us what we want to hear, we give them what they want, hoping that they're different but deep down we know they are the same as any other male chovinistic pig who just wants some action. We take the time to try to make it work, and we try to make them change, and we do everything that we possibly can to make it work and to make them feel the same way about us that we feel about them...but while we're doing this, we know in the back of our minds that it's just a waste of time, a lost cause.
Then there are the times we tell ourselves that we ok with just random hook up with our guy friends. We tell ourselves we can put a wall up and it won't matter. That the next day everything will go back to the same, we'll still be content with being "just friends" and that we'll be ok pretending nothing ever happened. Then, it gradually begins to sink in what we did. That wall? Yeah it wasn't put up. It's non existant. We're females. We have feelings. We have too many feelings. We're too emotional. Oh, and we get attached way too easily. Don't you dare sit there and say you don't get attached. I say it all the time, but I know I do so I know you do too. Go ahead and deny it, but you're really just wasting your time.
And I think my favorite situation is the "go to" situation. This is one I am guilty of and particularly familiar with. There are three different versions of this. The first is where the girl is lonely and finds a guy willing to make her feel wanted and cared about and loved for oh, say an hour or two? The second is the guy who is lonely and finds a girl willing to make him feel wanted and cared about for a couple hours. The final is the mutual usage. Allow me to elaborate:
The boy is on a break from his girl, and the other girl was just recently hurt. The girl runs to him and uses him, and lets him use her. She tells herself that she really is ok with it. That she knows things won't ever work out, and that she's completely ok with it. Then as time goes by, it starts to sink in what she's done. What was innocent fun becomes hurt and guilt. This turns into a feeling of almost worthlessness. She realizes that what she's done was wrong. It was a mistake. And while she told herself she'd have a wall up, she realizes she never did. She realizes the mistake she made. It hurts to know that her head was on the same pillow that his girl used to lay her head on. And that when his girls comes back, she will lay in the exact same spot that the go to girl was in. Meanwhile, his girl will never know what happened, and the thought that another girl laid in "her spot" will never cross her mind, not once.
Guys will continue to use girls and girls will continue to use guys. It's an particularly odd and vicious cycle we've created. We use eachother and complain about it. We complain about how there are no good guys left, and they complain how there are no good girls left. The thing is, we use eachother so much that we've just lost faith and hope in eachother. If we could just stop using eachother, we might realize just what we could have. Our eyes would become open to that perfect person sitting in the shadows, waiting for us to come to our senses.
But by the time we come to our senses, it's often too late because they're tired of waiting, and they want someone much much smarter.