This is a little late but I still thought it overall worth reading.
This is a blog entry that one of my friends wrote. I thought it was very well stated and thought I would post it here so that it could get a slightly wider audience. So here is the weblink: http://kathbowyer.blogspot.com/
A little Note For the Guys On Valentine's Day
by: Katherine Bowyer
Ok, so here's what you need to know about girls on Valentine's day. Before I begin allow me to put a disclaimer on this message...this may not apply to every girl...use your best judgement however that goes. Also, realize that this is open to suggestion...girls, feel free to comment and add suggestions. Another thing to keep in mind when reading this is that it is easier for girls to tell you what they don't like than it is for them to tell you what they do like. So having a knowledge of this is good, cause then you can ask specific questions and hopefully get a definite yes or no. :)
What a girl wants to know on Valentine's day is that you truly care, so if you don't truly care you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Now, about the definition of "care"...there are discrepancies I think between men and women. However, for women I think that we see care as thought (and action). If you care, then you will notice what she does and doesn't like and you will make a PLAN according to those things. Think about what you are going to do...don't just go to her and say, "well I really didn't know what to do, so I thought we could just..." or "what do you want to do?" Now, it is ok to ask what she wants to do, but probably not on Valentine's day. Some girls will be very understanding if your busy or whatever, so communication is key...find out and make note about how she might feel about those things. Being up front about the truth of the situation is always important
So, making a good plan involves knowing her. For those of you who know her well, this may not be a problem...but for others...you may begin to realize that you really don't know what she wants. DON'T PANIC! This is ok too. But, a girl does appreciate it...so a good plan for you might be to get to know her!! Valentine's day would be a great oppurtunity. For example, you might say to her, "I was thinking about what to do for Valentine's day and I realized that I really don't know you as well as I thought, which made my decision very hard. So, I decided to make this day a day to get to know you better..." and so on. Take her somewhere and find stuff out, like what are you favorite flowers. This shows that you really care about her for who she is and that you truly want to know her. Now, if this is an excuse for you laziness then all 'thought' on your part will be discounted, and her 'thought' will be to get rid of your lazy bum. You CANNOT be lazy AND CARE...it just doesn't mix well, the girl will notice and she will leave.
Another note, you can NEVER tell a girl too many times how much you care...in the fallen world we live in, it is very easy for a girl to forget that.
Wal-Mart:
A good way to get rid of your girl fast is to buy a premade gift basket and hand it to her like you've done somethin' for yourself. Let me just say STAY AWAY FROM THE 'VALENTINE' SPECIFIC AISLE AND STAY AWAY FROM THE BIG RED BEARS!!! What the crap is a girl gonna do with a big crappy valentine bear for the rest of the year. If you get her a bear, which is actually a good idea (for some girls, not all...i like them) get a nice one, a cute one, but never an outrageous eyesore with kisses all over it. If you wanna giver her kisses, give her real ones. If you get her a box of chocolates, make sure that's not the only thing...cause that doesn't take much effort. The only box of chocolate's I've seen that I like was one with Garfield and Odie on it...but that's just me. If you do venture into the valentine aisle, it can be ok, if there is more to your gift than those premade things. It is just nice when a guy comes up with his own valentine gift, make it your own!
Flowers:
This is another way that you can show her that you think and that you care. One thing I don't like in particular (having worked in a flower shop) is when a guy comes in and just orders a dozen red roses just because that's what people 'do.' I just want to say, "THINK! USE THE BRAIN AND THE EYES AND THE EARS GOD GAVE YOU." If you don't know what she likes, use your eyes!!! Ask the flower shop people to show you their flowers and let you pick some. Even on valentine's day you don't have to pick pink or red or anything. Pick blue and yellow and white and pink and orange. Be different. Your girl will then have the most special and most unique arrangement of all. Bigger is not always better! More is not always better! One flower can be plenty! Especially if she knows your a little low on dough. Did you know that Sunflowers are only 3 or 4 dollars! A sunflower looks great on its own. For those of you who may be completely clueless and nervous about entering flower shops...first of all, don't be scared, the people in their are nice and we love it when someone comes in and starts asking questions, "do you think she'd like this?" "What about these together" and so on...second of all I'm gonna give you a list to help you (With this list, and Google Images...you'll be a semi-expert on flowers in no time:
Daisy-whites, yellows, purples, these last a long time (white daisies are one of my favorites)
Daffodil-yellow and white
Delphinium-blue (one of my favorites)
Gerber Daisy-pink, light pink, orange, yellow, and much more
Tulip-pink, purple, yellow, red, etc. beautiful flowers (another fav)
Hydrangea-big fluffy blue and pink flowers
Snapdragons-several different colors
Stargazer Lily (any lily)-white and deep pink, but there are all colors of lilies and they are great by themselves
Orchid-white and other colors (beautiful)
Solidego-yellows
Alstromaria-white, yellow, pink, purple
Stock-white, yellow, pink (another favorite)
Calla Lily-white, yellow-very elegant flowers, excellent by themselves
Dutch Iris-purple and yellow (another fav)
Carnation-all colors, can resemble roses at a distance (not my fav)
Roses-come in all colors (but flower shops may not carry them all)
Filler-this is not the name of a flower, but this is what flower shops call little cheap flowers that they use to fill in the gaps of an arrangment, such as limonium (purple) or baby's breath (white). If you don't want this make sure you tell the flower shop people.
Here's a good reference link:
http://www.aboutflowers.com/fpvar/fresh.html
Other ways to show you care...
Valentine's day, Birthdays, christmas, etc...are all days where people are expected to 'care'...exchange gifts, tell someone they are special, be with family, laugh, and smile. It is always nice to show a girl that you care, even when you aren't EXPECTED to. Do not mistake this for a money pit! This does not mean that you should buy gifts every week or flowers every day...it is the small things that matter. Leave her a note on her car or in her room. Pick a wild daisy off the side of the highway. You can even just buy one flower, pick a pretty one and don't have the flower shop fix it up at all. Ask if they have any cheap, almost dead roses that you could have...and use the petals to spread them around her room. Tell her that she looks beautiful at a random moment. You don't have to conquer the world...just do some little things to let her know you thought about her enough to care.
Again, this isn't the same for every girl...some want much, much more...I leave it to you to decide if you wanna go that far...some don't need much at all, so it is to your benefit if you get to know her well. These things aren't required at all...please don't think that!! They are things that a girl just might appreciate...ask and find out. A girl that feels appreciated will more likely do things for you that you might appreciate. :)
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
A little Note For the Guys On Valentine's Day
by: Katherine Bowyer
Ok, so here's what you need to know about girls on Valentine's day. Before I begin allow me to put a disclaimer on this message...this may not apply to every girl...use your best judgement however that goes. Also, realize that this is open to suggestion...girls, feel free to comment and add suggestions. Another thing to keep in mind when reading this is that it is easier for girls to tell you what they don't like than it is for them to tell you what they do like. So having a knowledge of this is good, cause then you can ask specific questions and hopefully get a definite yes or no. :)
What a girl wants to know on Valentine's day is that you truly care, so if you don't truly care you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Now, about the definition of "care"...there are discrepancies I think between men and women. However, for women I think that we see care as thought (and action). If you care, then you will notice what she does and doesn't like and you will make a PLAN according to those things. Think about what you are going to do...don't just go to her and say, "well I really didn't know what to do, so I thought we could just..." or "what do you want to do?" Now, it is ok to ask what she wants to do, but probably not on Valentine's day. Some girls will be very understanding if your busy or whatever, so communication is key...find out and make note about how she might feel about those things. Being up front about the truth of the situation is always important
So, making a good plan involves knowing her. For those of you who know her well, this may not be a problem...but for others...you may begin to realize that you really don't know what she wants. DON'T PANIC! This is ok too. But, a girl does appreciate it...so a good plan for you might be to get to know her!! Valentine's day would be a great oppurtunity. For example, you might say to her, "I was thinking about what to do for Valentine's day and I realized that I really don't know you as well as I thought, which made my decision very hard. So, I decided to make this day a day to get to know you better..." and so on. Take her somewhere and find stuff out, like what are you favorite flowers. This shows that you really care about her for who she is and that you truly want to know her. Now, if this is an excuse for you laziness then all 'thought' on your part will be discounted, and her 'thought' will be to get rid of your lazy bum. You CANNOT be lazy AND CARE...it just doesn't mix well, the girl will notice and she will leave.
Another note, you can NEVER tell a girl too many times how much you care...in the fallen world we live in, it is very easy for a girl to forget that.
Wal-Mart:
A good way to get rid of your girl fast is to buy a premade gift basket and hand it to her like you've done somethin' for yourself. Let me just say STAY AWAY FROM THE 'VALENTINE' SPECIFIC AISLE AND STAY AWAY FROM THE BIG RED BEARS!!! What the crap is a girl gonna do with a big crappy valentine bear for the rest of the year. If you get her a bear, which is actually a good idea (for some girls, not all...i like them) get a nice one, a cute one, but never an outrageous eyesore with kisses all over it. If you wanna giver her kisses, give her real ones. If you get her a box of chocolates, make sure that's not the only thing...cause that doesn't take much effort. The only box of chocolate's I've seen that I like was one with Garfield and Odie on it...but that's just me. If you do venture into the valentine aisle, it can be ok, if there is more to your gift than those premade things. It is just nice when a guy comes up with his own valentine gift, make it your own!
Flowers:
This is another way that you can show her that you think and that you care. One thing I don't like in particular (having worked in a flower shop) is when a guy comes in and just orders a dozen red roses just because that's what people 'do.' I just want to say, "THINK! USE THE BRAIN AND THE EYES AND THE EARS GOD GAVE YOU." If you don't know what she likes, use your eyes!!! Ask the flower shop people to show you their flowers and let you pick some. Even on valentine's day you don't have to pick pink or red or anything. Pick blue and yellow and white and pink and orange. Be different. Your girl will then have the most special and most unique arrangement of all. Bigger is not always better! More is not always better! One flower can be plenty! Especially if she knows your a little low on dough. Did you know that Sunflowers are only 3 or 4 dollars! A sunflower looks great on its own. For those of you who may be completely clueless and nervous about entering flower shops...first of all, don't be scared, the people in their are nice and we love it when someone comes in and starts asking questions, "do you think she'd like this?" "What about these together" and so on...second of all I'm gonna give you a list to help you (With this list, and Google Images...you'll be a semi-expert on flowers in no time:
Daisy-whites, yellows, purples, these last a long time (white daisies are one of my favorites)
Daffodil-yellow and white
Delphinium-blue (one of my favorites)
Gerber Daisy-pink, light pink, orange, yellow, and much more
Tulip-pink, purple, yellow, red, etc. beautiful flowers (another fav)
Hydrangea-big fluffy blue and pink flowers
Snapdragons-several different colors
Stargazer Lily (any lily)-white and deep pink, but there are all colors of lilies and they are great by themselves
Orchid-white and other colors (beautiful)
Solidego-yellows
Alstromaria-white, yellow, pink, purple
Stock-white, yellow, pink (another favorite)
Calla Lily-white, yellow-very elegant flowers, excellent by themselves
Dutch Iris-purple and yellow (another fav)
Carnation-all colors, can resemble roses at a distance (not my fav)
Roses-come in all colors (but flower shops may not carry them all)
Filler-this is not the name of a flower, but this is what flower shops call little cheap flowers that they use to fill in the gaps of an arrangment, such as limonium (purple) or baby's breath (white). If you don't want this make sure you tell the flower shop people.
Here's a good reference link:
http://www.aboutflowers.com/fpvar/fresh.html
Other ways to show you care...
Valentine's day, Birthdays, christmas, etc...are all days where people are expected to 'care'...exchange gifts, tell someone they are special, be with family, laugh, and smile. It is always nice to show a girl that you care, even when you aren't EXPECTED to. Do not mistake this for a money pit! This does not mean that you should buy gifts every week or flowers every day...it is the small things that matter. Leave her a note on her car or in her room. Pick a wild daisy off the side of the highway. You can even just buy one flower, pick a pretty one and don't have the flower shop fix it up at all. Ask if they have any cheap, almost dead roses that you could have...and use the petals to spread them around her room. Tell her that she looks beautiful at a random moment. You don't have to conquer the world...just do some little things to let her know you thought about her enough to care.
Again, this isn't the same for every girl...some want much, much more...I leave it to you to decide if you wanna go that far...some don't need much at all, so it is to your benefit if you get to know her well. These things aren't required at all...please don't think that!! They are things that a girl just might appreciate...ask and find out. A girl that feels appreciated will more likely do things for you that you might appreciate. :)
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.