Confessions of a dying atheist....
K, sitting here kinda bored, Rehab just left a little while ago(good to see him again), and it got me to thinking....(might not even post this, just good to work things out on screen).
Just ramblings...so skip if you will
I have a select group of "good friends" , most of whom have been around since the beginning of high school. I draw from each any every one of them, something, that either helps complete the bigger picture of me, or enhances my existing traits.
I've tried to be a good friend to each of them (including many new ones along the way), and I choose to do so by being there when they need me, having the good times when they come up, and always being honest to a fault (which has provided me with the ever so charming name tags of pessimism and opinionation).
People have to make their own mistakes, granted, but is it not my job as a friend to try as hard as I can to stop them from making the big ones (the ones that arent just an ugly outfit or an excess of booze in a night)?
A) There is a friend who has never let me down, he has been there whenever I have needed him....and what's more, he sees when I have done so for him, and does his best to let me know that my friendship is not in vain.... he's not around as much as we all would like him to be....but he's a busy guy, and we understand.
B) Another friend is relativley new to the group....I work with this one and see him on an almost daily basis..... I cant really say I care for his views on the world , or his fascination with the almighty dollar.....but from a guy living paycheck to paycheck....maybe this is a trait I'd be well off to adopt. He has helped me out on several occasions, and for that Im grateful....and I think that we (as a group) have helped him to loosen up quite a bit, and show him what real friends "can" be like...
C) There are two friends who I link together in my mind (though it might not be who you'd think)....not because they are remarkably similar, but because my opinions on them are...... great guys, very intelligent in their respective fields, but who seem to get shafted by the female of the species as a general rule.... these are the ones who prove the old saying that girls dig jerks.... of all my friends, these two would be the only ones I would introduce a female "friend" to... and yet these are the ones that have the hardest of times in this area...They are wonderful people, and I only hope I have more opporitunies to show them both that their friendship is appreciated.
D) One I have known for a very long time, and have always considered a great friend....but over the last year or so, I've had a love / hate thing going on with him.....as a friend he's a good guy, but he has picked up the habit of lying (both to his guy friends and his now "ex" girlfriend...hence the X). He's become the typical example of the man with no shoes laughing at the man who has but one... Condescending at times, he can get under my skin like only a few know how...
Side note: I myself can admit my weaknesses, my lack of courage and my fears... and for the most part is is these admittals that allow me to get through every day. Knowing and identifying the flaws in me, only help me to overcome them a little more each day)....I'm honest, I'll say that.....but the rest...the ego, the confidence all of it....is all just a complex sham started years ago. A trick , to convince myself that I was more than what I am.... It's only years later that I realize that convincing myself I was these things actually made me them....anyways....
......back to "D"....one of the few things that I can not, or will not tolerate in my life are liars (this includes people who intentionally do not say things that they know will have a bearing on the lives of others). Im sorry, I can not get over that fact that this guy admits that he cheated on his g/f of 7 years...because it was the only way to make sure he wouldnt go back to her....Im sorry, bu in my mind, that's weakness, and immeasurable cruelty....but alas...who said friendship was easy...
E) Last (if only because it's 3:20 in the frikken morning) , but not least... Is my closest, dearest friend/ roomate/ partner in crimes (sometimes literally)... almost always a good ear, with a good head attached (for the most part)...Opinionated? sure....Stubborn? very sure....sound familiar?...oh wait....that's me...lol. "The greatest friends turn into the greatest enemies" , or such was the advices given to me upon leaving my childhood home to take up residence in this , the forest ghetto (all the streets are names of trees) of whitby....but such has not been the case for the most part....(aside from smaller matters like finances and other such negligible things).... Glad to see this one happy again, and my standing by with the life preserver is not a vote of disconfidence in current situations (and I hope it's not seen that way)....just looking for any reason to go get drunk....lol.
So my thing is this....I know so many people who envy our lttle group of friends, saying how their friends are not that close...etc ,etc... and I wonder why?....To quote a recent Coors Light Ad "brothers from different mothers"..... once again, leave it to the breweries to show us the way! Is this concept of friendship so hard to grasp and obtain?
a)Follow the man-code
b)Respect each other and their decisions
c)Dont screw each other over
d)Make a little time for the boys
e)Take a joke
f)Say your piece, then let it be....if you cant, go get drunk adn figure it all out (that way, if it's a serious conversation , you can blame the emotional stuff on booze)
g)Communicate
Meh I'm tired....figured Id try my typing skills out I guess....
Just ramblings...so skip if you will
I have a select group of "good friends" , most of whom have been around since the beginning of high school. I draw from each any every one of them, something, that either helps complete the bigger picture of me, or enhances my existing traits.
I've tried to be a good friend to each of them (including many new ones along the way), and I choose to do so by being there when they need me, having the good times when they come up, and always being honest to a fault (which has provided me with the ever so charming name tags of pessimism and opinionation).
People have to make their own mistakes, granted, but is it not my job as a friend to try as hard as I can to stop them from making the big ones (the ones that arent just an ugly outfit or an excess of booze in a night)?
A) There is a friend who has never let me down, he has been there whenever I have needed him....and what's more, he sees when I have done so for him, and does his best to let me know that my friendship is not in vain.... he's not around as much as we all would like him to be....but he's a busy guy, and we understand.
B) Another friend is relativley new to the group....I work with this one and see him on an almost daily basis..... I cant really say I care for his views on the world , or his fascination with the almighty dollar.....but from a guy living paycheck to paycheck....maybe this is a trait I'd be well off to adopt. He has helped me out on several occasions, and for that Im grateful....and I think that we (as a group) have helped him to loosen up quite a bit, and show him what real friends "can" be like...
C) There are two friends who I link together in my mind (though it might not be who you'd think)....not because they are remarkably similar, but because my opinions on them are...... great guys, very intelligent in their respective fields, but who seem to get shafted by the female of the species as a general rule.... these are the ones who prove the old saying that girls dig jerks.... of all my friends, these two would be the only ones I would introduce a female "friend" to... and yet these are the ones that have the hardest of times in this area...They are wonderful people, and I only hope I have more opporitunies to show them both that their friendship is appreciated.
D) One I have known for a very long time, and have always considered a great friend....but over the last year or so, I've had a love / hate thing going on with him.....as a friend he's a good guy, but he has picked up the habit of lying (both to his guy friends and his now "ex" girlfriend...hence the X). He's become the typical example of the man with no shoes laughing at the man who has but one... Condescending at times, he can get under my skin like only a few know how...
Side note: I myself can admit my weaknesses, my lack of courage and my fears... and for the most part is is these admittals that allow me to get through every day. Knowing and identifying the flaws in me, only help me to overcome them a little more each day)....I'm honest, I'll say that.....but the rest...the ego, the confidence all of it....is all just a complex sham started years ago. A trick , to convince myself that I was more than what I am.... It's only years later that I realize that convincing myself I was these things actually made me them....anyways....
......back to "D"....one of the few things that I can not, or will not tolerate in my life are liars (this includes people who intentionally do not say things that they know will have a bearing on the lives of others). Im sorry, I can not get over that fact that this guy admits that he cheated on his g/f of 7 years...because it was the only way to make sure he wouldnt go back to her....Im sorry, bu in my mind, that's weakness, and immeasurable cruelty....but alas...who said friendship was easy...
E) Last (if only because it's 3:20 in the frikken morning) , but not least... Is my closest, dearest friend/ roomate/ partner in crimes (sometimes literally)... almost always a good ear, with a good head attached (for the most part)...Opinionated? sure....Stubborn? very sure....sound familiar?...oh wait....that's me...lol. "The greatest friends turn into the greatest enemies" , or such was the advices given to me upon leaving my childhood home to take up residence in this , the forest ghetto (all the streets are names of trees) of whitby....but such has not been the case for the most part....(aside from smaller matters like finances and other such negligible things).... Glad to see this one happy again, and my standing by with the life preserver is not a vote of disconfidence in current situations (and I hope it's not seen that way)....just looking for any reason to go get drunk....lol.
So my thing is this....I know so many people who envy our lttle group of friends, saying how their friends are not that close...etc ,etc... and I wonder why?....To quote a recent Coors Light Ad "brothers from different mothers"..... once again, leave it to the breweries to show us the way! Is this concept of friendship so hard to grasp and obtain?
a)Follow the man-code
b)Respect each other and their decisions
c)Dont screw each other over
d)Make a little time for the boys
e)Take a joke
f)Say your piece, then let it be....if you cant, go get drunk adn figure it all out (that way, if it's a serious conversation , you can blame the emotional stuff on booze)
g)Communicate
Meh I'm tired....figured Id try my typing skills out I guess....