hmm

[languorouslove]

my mom said that the men of my family have breasts, and that it came from my dad's side. i thought she was making it up, and said he may because he's kind of fat. and then she told me that kids used to make fun of my brother when he was in elementary school. that made me sad. i didnt want him to suffer through a childhood like mine, and i thought

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[balthial]

I don't like how people, especially adults, who are mean for any reason. With kids....well, I'm not sure what you do with kids.

I don't know if this is interesting or not, but: cleft lips and female mustaches don't bother me, but I wouldn't want to date someone with one, you know? And I think most people wouldn't. So the person in question is still going to end up having to make an effort to get the trait "fixed".

[languorouslove]

it DOES bother you. how else could you justify the fact that you wouldnt want to date someone with one?

[balthial]

Now wait a minute. There are a lot of people I'm friends with, who I think are cool, but who I wouldn't want to date. Don't you have male friends you would never want to date?

[languorouslove]

yeah, but it's not because of their physical appearances. i choose not to date people based on personality traits, not physical traits.

[balthial]

I think its justifiable for one to say "I only want to date people who I find to be physically attractive." I think almost everyone takes that point of view. Maybe its better to be the way you describe yourself. But then, people don't really choose who they're attracted to.

[languorouslove]

of course it is true that most people think like that. that's why i made this entry.
however i think it is hypocritical to say that although you find those traits unattractive, you don't think of them as defects or problems.

[languorouslove]

i understand what you were saying now. the way i felt was that everyone should be considered attractive normally, and so to find someone unattractive would mean that there's a problem with that person. but attraction doesnt necessarily work like that.