Myspace blog
On Monday February 26, 2007 my paternal grandfather passed away. The week before that I lost my cell phone. unfortunately that was the only way of contact between my father side of the family and me.
I don’t want to start placing blame, but our relationship, I say “our” because is both my little sister and I, with our paternal family was nearly extinct. No Christmas cards, no birthdays calls, no random funny emails or calls to chat about what is going on in life. The sad thing is they live a 3 hour bus ride away. The last time I was over the bridge to visit was 7 years ago, I remember this because I have pictures with my ex at this reunion. This was suppose to be the time when the pack was made, no more bullshit, no more excuses, we are family regardless of the past, lets act that way. I think it this lasted a year, then the relationship faded until it completely disappeared. Fast forward 4 years, my sister and I visit our father, stepmother and brothers over the holidays, we are a 15 minutes car ride away, same area code and everything. This happy reunion last about 3 months, then again. Fades away. Then 2 years later I’m engaged and have no idea how to let my father know about the situation, I start talking to my older sister again, yes I have an older sister, and then to my brother, I ease them into this idea that in less than a year I will be getting married. My cell phone is intact with my brothers, sister and fathers information, so finally I make my move. I strike and tell them the events to follow in a couple of months. Surprise, yet calm about the situation, I feel relief. Then I learn about my grandparents. Our grandmother has had multiple strokes, and currently in a rehab center. Our grandfather who was doing okay, until shortly prior to that was in a coma state, however seemed as though was slowly recovering. That was 3 weeks ago. Then my sister and I added our cousins and brother to our myspace friends. Then I get the call.
Dasha: Ann, did you know our grandfather died?
Ann: What do you mean, what are you talking about?
Dasha: I saw it on Howie’s Myspace, he wrote RIP Abuelo, and no one told us
At this time I wish my cell phone wasn’t in the Bermuda Triangle of phones, I wish I can call to confirm, to see the multiple miss call attempts to talk to my family and see how they are doing. I search phone books after book with no numbers, then I use the most unlikely source to connect with my family.....Myspace. Yes, the same way we found out about grandpa’s death, is the same way we found out about the funeral arrangements, the church mass and our way to get there. I had an opportunity to see my grandmother, doing great and my cousin, some who couldn’t put together a comprehensive sentence last time I saw them, speaking in my level, about the same things I like, about their goals, and aspirations. Even though it wasn’t the best of endings, thanks to Myspace I have had the chance to reunite with my family and this time, no excuses, no BS, no more, we will stick together have Christmas cards and Birthday calls, and Thanksgiving Dinners. Can’t wait to get to know them all and truly be united.
Love,
Me
PS. Speaking of Birthdays I don’t know them all, write and let me know.
I don’t want to start placing blame, but our relationship, I say “our” because is both my little sister and I, with our paternal family was nearly extinct. No Christmas cards, no birthdays calls, no random funny emails or calls to chat about what is going on in life. The sad thing is they live a 3 hour bus ride away. The last time I was over the bridge to visit was 7 years ago, I remember this because I have pictures with my ex at this reunion. This was suppose to be the time when the pack was made, no more bullshit, no more excuses, we are family regardless of the past, lets act that way. I think it this lasted a year, then the relationship faded until it completely disappeared. Fast forward 4 years, my sister and I visit our father, stepmother and brothers over the holidays, we are a 15 minutes car ride away, same area code and everything. This happy reunion last about 3 months, then again. Fades away. Then 2 years later I’m engaged and have no idea how to let my father know about the situation, I start talking to my older sister again, yes I have an older sister, and then to my brother, I ease them into this idea that in less than a year I will be getting married. My cell phone is intact with my brothers, sister and fathers information, so finally I make my move. I strike and tell them the events to follow in a couple of months. Surprise, yet calm about the situation, I feel relief. Then I learn about my grandparents. Our grandmother has had multiple strokes, and currently in a rehab center. Our grandfather who was doing okay, until shortly prior to that was in a coma state, however seemed as though was slowly recovering. That was 3 weeks ago. Then my sister and I added our cousins and brother to our myspace friends. Then I get the call.
Dasha: Ann, did you know our grandfather died?
Ann: What do you mean, what are you talking about?
Dasha: I saw it on Howie’s Myspace, he wrote RIP Abuelo, and no one told us
At this time I wish my cell phone wasn’t in the Bermuda Triangle of phones, I wish I can call to confirm, to see the multiple miss call attempts to talk to my family and see how they are doing. I search phone books after book with no numbers, then I use the most unlikely source to connect with my family.....Myspace. Yes, the same way we found out about grandpa’s death, is the same way we found out about the funeral arrangements, the church mass and our way to get there. I had an opportunity to see my grandmother, doing great and my cousin, some who couldn’t put together a comprehensive sentence last time I saw them, speaking in my level, about the same things I like, about their goals, and aspirations. Even though it wasn’t the best of endings, thanks to Myspace I have had the chance to reunite with my family and this time, no excuses, no BS, no more, we will stick together have Christmas cards and Birthday calls, and Thanksgiving Dinners. Can’t wait to get to know them all and truly be united.
Love,
Me
PS. Speaking of Birthdays I don’t know them all, write and let me know.