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so i'm frustrated....
i know its rare that i write here but its one place that i feel i can write this one thing thats on my mind and not worry so much about the response, namely because barely anyone reads it and also because i know that the people who do read know who i am and know what i am not....
i had a friend......she is black.....i met her through her fiance who is black.......and apparently......as jay and i have ascertained on several occasions they each have managed to accuse jay and i of been racist towards them but have continued following these statements as if nothing happened.....
the first statement made by him to me was:
sometimes when you interrupt me i have to think if you are doing it because you are white and therefore feel that you are superior and have the right to do so......
the second statement from her to jay:
(he was passing her on the street but had music on and was walking home, did not see her, she called his name he didn't hear because he had music on, this repeated several times until she pulled him aside at which point she said:)
" i see how it is you just treat us like normal black people waiting for the bus"
now to both of these statements, we both just kinda shook our heads and silently took note because for anyone who knows me, knows that when i get excited or have something to say i tend to interrupt.....they also know that i'm italian and grew up with a twin brother and a younger brother and talkative friends so i fast learned if i wanted to be heard that i needed to speak up, and sometimes over others......i'm working on it, but you know what its part of me, and if you want to be friends with me you'll get use to it.......
to the second statement i would simply like someone to identify for me what a normal black couple looks like, I just wasn't sure what they looked like and how one specifically treats them.........please help me there....
so i work with the guy and just know the girl, and we use to hang out, talk, etc. but then she stopped calling pretty much.....and we made plans that they always canceled...or changed to thier needs and wants ignoring us......and so finally the week before the guy left for india for a month they canceled dinner plans but got pissed off when we decided not to go to the guys going away party......they called me four times that night.....texted me the next day and then preceded to call me five times a week for the month he was out of the country.......
i'll be honest i was passive agressive and didn't answer the phone calls, but the reason behind it is this....how do you explain to someone that the reason you didn't show, aren't talking to them, and quite plainly want nothing to do with them is because you are not racist, disposable or there to be used........
i thought a month of nothing did that well......nope......he returned to work and questioned me on why i haven't returned any calls......i replied i was busy......with my life........he persisted....as did i with the fact that i was busy...with my life.........she showed up at work........questioned me about not returning calls....i replied i had nothing to say to her.......she persisted.....with how she left messages......i persisted with having nothing to say to her, and that i was busy...........i thought i was clear.........she apparently came by the house when jay and i were gone.......and called my phone..........
how do you explain to someone that you work with and his fiance that the reason you want nothing to do with them is because they are racist?i know this should be easy......but keep in mind i work with him, and i thought i was clear but apparently i was not....because she tried to come by.........
HELP ME PLEASE...........this is beyond me........i am so tired of crazy people......
i know its rare that i write here but its one place that i feel i can write this one thing thats on my mind and not worry so much about the response, namely because barely anyone reads it and also because i know that the people who do read know who i am and know what i am not....
i had a friend......she is black.....i met her through her fiance who is black.......and apparently......as jay and i have ascertained on several occasions they each have managed to accuse jay and i of been racist towards them but have continued following these statements as if nothing happened.....
the first statement made by him to me was:
sometimes when you interrupt me i have to think if you are doing it because you are white and therefore feel that you are superior and have the right to do so......
the second statement from her to jay:
(he was passing her on the street but had music on and was walking home, did not see her, she called his name he didn't hear because he had music on, this repeated several times until she pulled him aside at which point she said:)
" i see how it is you just treat us like normal black people waiting for the bus"
now to both of these statements, we both just kinda shook our heads and silently took note because for anyone who knows me, knows that when i get excited or have something to say i tend to interrupt.....they also know that i'm italian and grew up with a twin brother and a younger brother and talkative friends so i fast learned if i wanted to be heard that i needed to speak up, and sometimes over others......i'm working on it, but you know what its part of me, and if you want to be friends with me you'll get use to it.......
to the second statement i would simply like someone to identify for me what a normal black couple looks like, I just wasn't sure what they looked like and how one specifically treats them.........please help me there....
so i work with the guy and just know the girl, and we use to hang out, talk, etc. but then she stopped calling pretty much.....and we made plans that they always canceled...or changed to thier needs and wants ignoring us......and so finally the week before the guy left for india for a month they canceled dinner plans but got pissed off when we decided not to go to the guys going away party......they called me four times that night.....texted me the next day and then preceded to call me five times a week for the month he was out of the country.......
i'll be honest i was passive agressive and didn't answer the phone calls, but the reason behind it is this....how do you explain to someone that the reason you didn't show, aren't talking to them, and quite plainly want nothing to do with them is because you are not racist, disposable or there to be used........
i thought a month of nothing did that well......nope......he returned to work and questioned me on why i haven't returned any calls......i replied i was busy......with my life........he persisted....as did i with the fact that i was busy...with my life.........she showed up at work........questioned me about not returning calls....i replied i had nothing to say to her.......she persisted.....with how she left messages......i persisted with having nothing to say to her, and that i was busy...........i thought i was clear.........she apparently came by the house when jay and i were gone.......and called my phone..........
how do you explain to someone that you work with and his fiance that the reason you want nothing to do with them is because they are racist?i know this should be easy......but keep in mind i work with him, and i thought i was clear but apparently i was not....because she tried to come by.........
HELP ME PLEASE...........this is beyond me........i am so tired of crazy people......