It doesn't really matter how you explain it to them. Depending on your parents, different methods may be taken to change how much the stress you out. I've taken the approach of cutting their support out of my life. While it has lead to stress in other areas like finances and education...namely, I'm on the super slow track at school and I have to work 40 hours of week to support myself, I no longer have parental stress on a significant degree.
I don't necessarily encourage anyone else to take this path. It's truly the stupider path if you consider the amount of extra time I'll be spending at a dead-end job and in school. But ironically, I believe I'm happier now than I was under my parent's roof.
As long as they paid for my auto insurance, I felt that wasn't free. As long as they paid for my schooling, I felt their disapproving looks behind me whenever I scored a C or lower. As long as they gave me money for my extracurricular activities, I heard their disapproving voices saying "you're over 20 now, why are you still playing games?"
Now I pay for all of it, and I don't hear or feel any of that anymore. For me personally, that bit of freedom is worth more than the additional years I'm going to have to spend in college.
I've often thought about how I could cut them out entirely... but I'm still too insecure about taking care of myself. Which is a problem in and of itself.
I fear the unknown so I don't change the thing that is bringing me down.
It doesn't really matter how you explain it to them. Depending on your parents, different methods may be taken to change how much the stress you out. I've taken the approach of cutting their support out of my life. While it has lead to stress in other areas like finances and education...namely, I'm on the super slow track at school and I have to work 40 hours of week to support myself, I no longer have parental stress on a significant degree.
I don't necessarily encourage anyone else to take this path. It's truly the stupider path if you consider the amount of extra time I'll be spending at a dead-end job and in school. But ironically, I believe I'm happier now than I was under my parent's roof.
As long as they paid for my auto insurance, I felt that wasn't free.
As long as they paid for my schooling, I felt their disapproving looks behind me whenever I scored a C or lower.
As long as they gave me money for my extracurricular activities, I heard their disapproving voices saying "you're over 20 now, why are you still playing games?"
Now I pay for all of it, and I don't hear or feel any of that anymore. For me personally, that bit of freedom is worth more than the additional years I'm going to have to spend in college.
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I fear the unknown so I don't change the thing that is bringing me down.
I suppose it's something to work on... thanks!
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