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[laeryken]

I wonder how common it is for people who are super close friends to have at least one person develop feelings for the other?

I feel a deep, profound affection for my best friend, even as my romantic love for her fades.

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[akaleia]

Love never dies. I truly believe that. It may lessen some though, but will always be there in some form.

[laeryken]

I definitely believe that, too.

[kaceyjane]

i often develop strong feelings and infatuation for friends as they become closer. it's just a part of my natural process i guess; polyamorous, wild heart.

[laeryken]

I've often contemplated the value of a polyamorous lifestyle. I've been meaning to read "The Ethical Slut".

[inmybackpocket]

You know I have a similar situation with a friend of mine. Since I've know him we have had a crush on each other but at different points in time. Recently I got to spend an entire weekend with him on vacation and as disgustingly flirty as we were with each other I realized that I don't think I would want to date him. I just love the attention he gives me and appreciate the kind of person he is. I didn't think it was possible to be so attracted to someone physically and emotionally but not want to be with them. Now wanting to do stuff with him is a whole other story ... ;-)

[laeryken]

Hah... yeah, that does make a lot of sense. =/

Blah blah blah.

Has that been difficult with your beau?

[inmybackpocket]

He hates my friend so much. So we never hang out all together unless my brother is there because my friend is also my brothers friend.

[laeryken]

Understandable. :(

[innamortata]

i think its pretty common. If you put a hetero guy and hetero girl in a room alone together, eventually theyll probably wanna bone. But from my experience, if something's gonna happen, it'll happen within the first few months/year of the friendship. If you make it past that, it will become almost a familial brother/sister bond.

[laeryken]

yeah, it's gone back and forth. the thing that was weird is that it made it a long while before we boned. years of total friendship, then 9+ months of closer friendship.

[laeryken]

Yeah, I'm quickly falling back into friendship feelings with this lady. She's a great friend. We got concert tickets together!