J's grandma...
J's grandma, as some of you know, is 98 years old. She has been admitted into the hospital twice in the last month and this time, we don't think she's coming out. The doctors have said that she isn't eating or doing much of anything at this point, and due to what's in her living will, they were removing the IV last night (the only thing keeping her going, apparently). They've given her 3 days. She's a dear, sweet lady. Kind. Funny. Talented. (We have some of her paintings here in the apartment.) And above all else, a lady. I'm glad they are choosing dignity for her instead of strapping her into machines to falsely keep her going. If it's her time, it's her time.
If she's in discomfort and pain, then it's time to let her go. They're giving her morphine, so she'll at least be comfortable. She's had a good, long life. Longer than most! J seems to be handling it well enough for now. Guess we'll see how we all fare when it finally happens.
On a slightly related note, I'm upset with my sister-in-law right now. She doesn't know when to shut her mouth. Last night when she was on the phone with J, she went on about how morbidly ironic it would be if Grandma passed away on Friday the 13th, how it would figure, etc. He was floored and yelled at her about being insensitive, then reminded her that this Friday the 13th is our 5th wedding anniversary. She made a half-assed apology and went on babbling about something else. This woman doesn't know when to shut her mouth. She doesn't think before she speaks because she talks faster than her brain works.
Geezus, I want to smack her. I was so angry last night that I was in tears. J was really hurt by the comment. I mean, c'mon... she was there. And even if she didn't remember the exact date, she knew it was coming up... so if a person isn't sure of what date it is and knew this might happen around it, wouldn't they just... not say anything? Just in case?
I know some of you will say she's upset and to forgive her, that it was a simple little slip-up but you don't know this woman like I do. She induced a panic attack in me at my own wedding. She drove my parents and brother nuts regarding the Stag and Doe. When she starts talking, people start rolling her eyes. I have told my hubby that he is NOT permitted to leave me stranded alone in a room with her any more because I WILL tell her to shut up one of these days. Yes, I'm chatty. Yes, I'm vocal and opinionated. But my god, woman, SHUT THE FUCK UP.
She talked almost INCESSANTLY at her brother's funeral last year... while sitting next to me. I couldn't escape. Here we are, trying to listen to the sermon (though I'm not of the same faith, I will show that respect) and she TALKED MY EAR OFF. She just would not shut up, no matter how much I tried to ignore her.
She just blurts shit out and doesn't think about how she might be hurting someone and when they call her on it? She's suddenly the victim and everyoen babies her! I told my mum-in-law the other day that she needs to stop doing that... that she's not doing my sister-in-law any good by calling her on poor behaviour and then rewarding her for worse behaviour. She said, "I know. But it's a mom-thing." I kept my mouth shut at that point in time, because, well, she's not going to change now and what's the point in arguing that?
Perhaps it's not even my place to.
But I warned my husband that if she starts in on me again sometime and overwhelms me like she has in the past, I really don't know how much longer I can keep my mouth shut.
Excuse me while I go blow away 45 minutes or so in WoW to burn off some anger and upset before I have to start getting ready for work. Going to go kill monsters now.
If she's in discomfort and pain, then it's time to let her go. They're giving her morphine, so she'll at least be comfortable. She's had a good, long life. Longer than most! J seems to be handling it well enough for now. Guess we'll see how we all fare when it finally happens.
On a slightly related note, I'm upset with my sister-in-law right now. She doesn't know when to shut her mouth. Last night when she was on the phone with J, she went on about how morbidly ironic it would be if Grandma passed away on Friday the 13th, how it would figure, etc. He was floored and yelled at her about being insensitive, then reminded her that this Friday the 13th is our 5th wedding anniversary. She made a half-assed apology and went on babbling about something else. This woman doesn't know when to shut her mouth. She doesn't think before she speaks because she talks faster than her brain works.
Geezus, I want to smack her. I was so angry last night that I was in tears. J was really hurt by the comment. I mean, c'mon... she was there. And even if she didn't remember the exact date, she knew it was coming up... so if a person isn't sure of what date it is and knew this might happen around it, wouldn't they just... not say anything? Just in case?
I know some of you will say she's upset and to forgive her, that it was a simple little slip-up but you don't know this woman like I do. She induced a panic attack in me at my own wedding. She drove my parents and brother nuts regarding the Stag and Doe. When she starts talking, people start rolling her eyes. I have told my hubby that he is NOT permitted to leave me stranded alone in a room with her any more because I WILL tell her to shut up one of these days. Yes, I'm chatty. Yes, I'm vocal and opinionated. But my god, woman, SHUT THE FUCK UP.
She talked almost INCESSANTLY at her brother's funeral last year... while sitting next to me. I couldn't escape. Here we are, trying to listen to the sermon (though I'm not of the same faith, I will show that respect) and she TALKED MY EAR OFF. She just would not shut up, no matter how much I tried to ignore her.
She just blurts shit out and doesn't think about how she might be hurting someone and when they call her on it? She's suddenly the victim and everyoen babies her! I told my mum-in-law the other day that she needs to stop doing that... that she's not doing my sister-in-law any good by calling her on poor behaviour and then rewarding her for worse behaviour. She said, "I know. But it's a mom-thing." I kept my mouth shut at that point in time, because, well, she's not going to change now and what's the point in arguing that?
Perhaps it's not even my place to.
But I warned my husband that if she starts in on me again sometime and overwhelms me like she has in the past, I really don't know how much longer I can keep my mouth shut.
Excuse me while I go blow away 45 minutes or so in WoW to burn off some anger and upset before I have to start getting ready for work. Going to go kill monsters now.