this is how i am
so i finally got a job working at a liquor store. at least i dont have to work on sundays. and i know its only 8 an hour but i'm just really grateful its a job. oh man. the people that come in... XD some of them are hilarious, like the lady that said she didnt want one of my managers carrying out a box for her cause she had girl parts XD, or the
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But you know what you've got to stop being superficial. And I don't mean you and other guys, I mean other guys and you. You think looks is all it is? Hon if looks was all it was I'd ask you to date me, hands down. You're a very pretty girl but there's a few things that make it an impossibility.
1) You're very religious, I'm practically anti-religious. Does. Not. Work.
2) I'm very sexual and downright kinky - you're....well if you are you hide it well, but my assumption is that you're not - and that wouldn't work either.
3) Kinda connected to #2, I'm actually looking to do the Dominant/submissive thing as a lifestyle, not just in the bedroom. Again, something I think you're probably not into, and thus I'd eventually get frustrated and unhappy.
4) You lack confidense. I'm not saying you need to walk around thinking you're the best thing since sliced bread. We call those "stuck-up bitches". But you can't go around thinking you're terrible and ugly either. I myself have issues with that from time to time. When I'm up, I get dates, when I'm down I don't. If I can't respect myself, how can I expect anyone else to? So you see it may well not be looks at ALL that keep people from asking you out and I'd expect #4 here is one of the biggest contributors.
Imagine a chef that won't eat his own food. When you ask him/her why, they sadly say it's because it tastes like cockroaches sauteed in butter with a garnish of dirt. Would you want to eat it? Nope. I'd just take their word for it and tell them to keep practicing while I kept my distance. A good chef wouldn't be arrogant about their stuff, but would encourage me to taste it, give it a try, help them become better but hope from their heart that I enjoy all the hard work they've put forth.
Another confidense example is my good friend Rachel. She's a big girl, and she knows that a lot of guys wouldn't go near her because they don't think big girls are attractive. Now this story is a sexual one but bear with me. She's had....experience and she knows what guys like and how to make them happy and more than once she's surprised people. With that knowledge, she's CONFIDENT. She knows that she can do it and that gives her strength. No, she doesn't sleep with anyone she sees [and in fact has changed a lot since the old days] but whenever anyone shuns her because of how she looks she just grins and laughs it off because SHE knows what they're missing.
You've got plenty of good qualities. You're a good friend, you're an amazing artist. You also look great and you act adorable. And you're not alone. I know a lot of girls older than you that have been single for longer. Some of them haven't had dates in a while, some of them HAVE but WISH they hadn't, as they've been meeting really annoying guys or just plain assholes.
Cheer up, hon. You'll find the one for you. I'd bet you even find them and get married before I do ;)
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