"normalcy"... why?
I've been poly for longer than I've known it had a name. I've seen of late this struggle for acceptance and "normalcy" and I have a mixed bag set of emotions tied to all of this. I accepted a long long time ago that there is blessedly little in my life that you could hang society's title of "normal" onto without it being a joke.
I love who I love, without the limits of number or gender identity. I don't expect you to like it, but if you're a friend, I do expect you to not be an asshole about it. I have plenty of monogamous friends who don't get my "lifestyle" but quite frankly that goes both ways so we have long agreed to just disagree and still accept each other as we are, because that's what you do with your friends and family. I don't expect this from the general public. What I do and how I love isn't normal according to mother culture, trust me I'm not losing any sleep over this fact.
I get the desire to be more public, to be more accepted, to not be the target of unjustified legal action. I do. But we, the polyamorous, that is have defied the term Normal for a long time and don't limit ourselves one bit by what mother culture tells us we should or shouldn't be doing in our bedrooms. So why this sudden push to make poly more "normal"? any thoughts?
I love who I love, without the limits of number or gender identity. I don't expect you to like it, but if you're a friend, I do expect you to not be an asshole about it. I have plenty of monogamous friends who don't get my "lifestyle" but quite frankly that goes both ways so we have long agreed to just disagree and still accept each other as we are, because that's what you do with your friends and family. I don't expect this from the general public. What I do and how I love isn't normal according to mother culture, trust me I'm not losing any sleep over this fact.
I get the desire to be more public, to be more accepted, to not be the target of unjustified legal action. I do. But we, the polyamorous, that is have defied the term Normal for a long time and don't limit ourselves one bit by what mother culture tells us we should or shouldn't be doing in our bedrooms. So why this sudden push to make poly more "normal"? any thoughts?