The Plan: Phase 1

[ladyjenbug]

Shortly after I graduated from college, I spent a day with my family and a couple with whom my parents are close. This couple is heavily into God. As we were saying goodbye, the husband said to me "God has a plan for you." (This was in context, as we'd talked earlier about my status as newly graduated and without much of a plan.) I, somewhat

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*shakes head*

[fencerlitdiva]

Who told you guys that there was a plan? Or that there had to be one? I sort of randomly happened upon the whole librarian thing while finishing a second (useless) degree that I embarked upon as part of a previously created (and ultimately failed) plan. And that's after finishing college the first time and moving off to the "big city" with no sort of plan whatsoever.

My point? There's no plan. Go with the flow, and maybe life will hand you something that seems like a good idea. You just have to be paying attention. Seriously. I was 30 when I got married, 31 when I finished my MLS, and 32 when I got my first proper job. I know that's not that much older than y'all, but I know people plenty older than me who are still "figuring it out" and probably more than a few who never will, but they've got something to do that seems to make them happy, and really, I think that's all we can hope for. Not to throw another cliche into the mix, but I really like this one: It's the journey, not the destination.

Jen, I think that taking this class, if it interests you and moves you, is a great idea! Don't put too much faith in it for now - just see where it takes you, what the next step seems to be when you get there. There's always time.

Re: *shakes head*

[fencerlitdiva]

I tend to agree with you that "there is no plan". It's an idea that I've been coming to gradually, and am also gradually coming to like. I feel like this way leaves you open to more possibilities and therefore, more fun. We aren't static creatures.

My dad knew at 12 that he wanted to be a doctor, and I just assumed everyone was like that. Funny that I never considered my mom's situation. Didn't she always plan to be a stay-at-home mom? I only realized sometime in the past three years that most of what she's done with her life has been going with the flow. From her MLS degree (she had too much free time when Dad was in school, so she took classes) to staying home with us (couldn't work in the Phillipines), it's all been her taking things as they came. My point is that fulfillment isn't dependent upon a plan.