how it happens
I understand that both men and women need outlets. Outlets for frustation, excitment, bordem, etc..... Usually theses outlets include some type of fantasy or activity. Something that is unatanable, something that lets us escape from real life. Men's fantastys usually include something sexual like porn. Womens fantasys usually include some type of pampering or a harliquin romance novel.
In this case the fantasy realm was role playing. And like all RP'ing there are characters that people have created and that evolved over years. Characters that people have devoted time and effort into. Thus, the characters become an extention of themselves. Then the characters develop relationships with other characters and a whole soap opera or star trek episode/ movie is written. Life, death, and sex are all parts of those characters and relationships.
I wish it would be so simple to seperate.
You see if my husband was reading a pron magazine or writing a romance novel or even a movie, that we all might pay big money to see, I wouldn't have a problem with that. Because, the model in the pron magazine isn't going to offer to come over to my house, the novel would all be him interacting within himself, and a movie well that's for entertainment is still a just a script.
And Really the magazine, novel, or script pose no threat to me.
But, if you think about it. Once that movie script has a cast of characters and the actors start to play those characters. The two diffrent actors, maybe even people that have never met, are suddenly inveloped in a story line that has them a husband and wife. They have to act as husband and wife 8-14 hrs out of the day for 3-6months straight, and then all the sudden just turn off those emotions. It's hard to do. (that's why movie star marriage usually don't last)
Well then the lines start to become blurred.
I.E. "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" with Bran Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
When the line get blurred between RL an RP then relationships get damaged. They get damaged because of the time, effort, and devotion being put into the RP relationship, and because the lack of communcation and attention the the RL partner is getting. All the sudden the players are inveloped in each others lives, feeling emotions and having experiences that are tricking the mind. The RP person becomes the person they take their everyday problems/stress's/bitching to. Then the RL person is pushed out of the picture or at leaset to the side.
In this case the fantasy realm was role playing. And like all RP'ing there are characters that people have created and that evolved over years. Characters that people have devoted time and effort into. Thus, the characters become an extention of themselves. Then the characters develop relationships with other characters and a whole soap opera or star trek episode/ movie is written. Life, death, and sex are all parts of those characters and relationships.
I wish it would be so simple to seperate.
You see if my husband was reading a pron magazine or writing a romance novel or even a movie, that we all might pay big money to see, I wouldn't have a problem with that. Because, the model in the pron magazine isn't going to offer to come over to my house, the novel would all be him interacting within himself, and a movie well that's for entertainment is still a just a script.
And Really the magazine, novel, or script pose no threat to me.
But, if you think about it. Once that movie script has a cast of characters and the actors start to play those characters. The two diffrent actors, maybe even people that have never met, are suddenly inveloped in a story line that has them a husband and wife. They have to act as husband and wife 8-14 hrs out of the day for 3-6months straight, and then all the sudden just turn off those emotions. It's hard to do. (that's why movie star marriage usually don't last)
Well then the lines start to become blurred.
I.E. "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" with Bran Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
When the line get blurred between RL an RP then relationships get damaged. They get damaged because of the time, effort, and devotion being put into the RP relationship, and because the lack of communcation and attention the the RL partner is getting. All the sudden the players are inveloped in each others lives, feeling emotions and having experiences that are tricking the mind. The RP person becomes the person they take their everyday problems/stress's/bitching to. Then the RL person is pushed out of the picture or at leaset to the side.