Deep Thoughts Thirty Day Challenge, Day Twenty Eight
28. Would you rather someone tell you the truth up front but gently, or be lied to to spare your feelings?
To be perfectly honest (heh), I would definitely prefer to be told the truth. Being lied to is definitely all well and good if only to spare feelings (I know I do that sometimes with other people because I don't want to hurt them. *), but being told the truth... *Sighs* I want to know when I'm going too far. I want to know if I'm doing something wrong or doing something right, I want some degree of constructive criticism for a lot of things, whether it be my actions, my writing, etc. It might not always be what I need to hear, but I think it's what I need to hear. Just to avoid repeating mistakes in the future. To avoid going back to the same old mistake (which...it's frustrating as all hell. You think you've left it behind, but then it comes back all, "Hey, remember me?" Or, to use a Tumblr meme, "Surprise, bitch! I bet you thought you'd seen the last of me!" Paraphrasing, but still...) and either progress, or make new ones. (Half-joking for the latter, really)
I know one example of this is my mother. What she's saying is not always what I want to hear (and hell, sometimes I disagree heavily with her. I mean, it comes with the territory), but it's something I need to hear. To be a better person, to be a happier person, to be a healthier person, to do better in school...and by God, I'm going to try and keep that in mind as much as I can. To be happier, and perhaps healthier.
So yeah...I definitely prefer the truth. Lies are the easy way out. But the truth? That's the right thing, and I think it's better to do what's right than what's easy. That and the truth might give me an idea as to what to do next, which I think is crucial in decision-making. You can't really make a decision if you don't have all the facts, after all. And I want to have the facts, no matter how painful they may be. That way...that way I'll know what to do.
* I know it definitely sounds odd considering that most of my writing is wear-my-heart-on-my-sleeve mode, but to be perfectly honest, I do have my periods where I just hold back if only to avoid hurting someone. I don't think I could really live with myself if I hurt someone.
29. If you could be doing the same things you do now, only in your own way, how would a normal day in your life go?
30. Look back on this last month and talk about it.
To be perfectly honest (heh), I would definitely prefer to be told the truth. Being lied to is definitely all well and good if only to spare feelings (I know I do that sometimes with other people because I don't want to hurt them. *), but being told the truth... *Sighs* I want to know when I'm going too far. I want to know if I'm doing something wrong or doing something right, I want some degree of constructive criticism for a lot of things, whether it be my actions, my writing, etc. It might not always be what I need to hear, but I think it's what I need to hear. Just to avoid repeating mistakes in the future. To avoid going back to the same old mistake (which...it's frustrating as all hell. You think you've left it behind, but then it comes back all, "Hey, remember me?" Or, to use a Tumblr meme, "Surprise, bitch! I bet you thought you'd seen the last of me!" Paraphrasing, but still...) and either progress, or make new ones. (Half-joking for the latter, really)
I know one example of this is my mother. What she's saying is not always what I want to hear (and hell, sometimes I disagree heavily with her. I mean, it comes with the territory), but it's something I need to hear. To be a better person, to be a happier person, to be a healthier person, to do better in school...and by God, I'm going to try and keep that in mind as much as I can. To be happier, and perhaps healthier.
So yeah...I definitely prefer the truth. Lies are the easy way out. But the truth? That's the right thing, and I think it's better to do what's right than what's easy. That and the truth might give me an idea as to what to do next, which I think is crucial in decision-making. You can't really make a decision if you don't have all the facts, after all. And I want to have the facts, no matter how painful they may be. That way...that way I'll know what to do.
* I know it definitely sounds odd considering that most of my writing is wear-my-heart-on-my-sleeve mode, but to be perfectly honest, I do have my periods where I just hold back if only to avoid hurting someone. I don't think I could really live with myself if I hurt someone.
29. If you could be doing the same things you do now, only in your own way, how would a normal day in your life go?
30. Look back on this last month and talk about it.