Okay let's do this thing: THE GUILT MEME

Apr 05, 2012 18:43

Aahahahaa, okay so we were talking on Twitter about feedback; kudos vs comments and how sometimes you love a story A LOT and really WANT to comment, but don't and then never do and I discovered I'm not the only person who psyches themselves out of commenting like that. So here, have THE GUILT MEME ( Read more... )

i am insane, meme, recs

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ladyfoxxx April 6 2012, 07:54:30 UTC
I LOVE KUDOS. The only time I get meh about kudos is when it's from a guest, but even then it's still kind of exciting because it's like OH HEY LOOK A LURKER LIKED THIS. (Or occasionally even OH HEY LOOK SOMEONE LIKED THIS WHO DIDN'T WANT TO ADMIT WHO THEY ARE. It still cracks me up that Price of Pretty has so many guest kudos, like there's all these people out there going LOOK I JUST DON'T WANT ANYONE TO KNOW ABOUT MY THING ABOUT SPANKING but w/ev w/ev.)

I think it's a completely understandable reaction when something has a lot of comments already to go "well what new thing could I have to say" or "well this person knows this is awesome" or whatever. I know I've totally let myself off the hook for commenting if something had a huge response already. For me this meme was more about the ones that you cherish and love and KEEP going back to that you've never even sent a smoke signal up about, and in some ways it's more for ME than the author that I feel I want to reach out, because the story means so much to ME it feels wrong that I've never let them know that, you know? Even if they never respond.

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halfeatenmoon April 8 2012, 21:24:54 UTC
I love kudos too! As a writer and a reader, because in both senses I feel like it lets me engage without engaging, if that makes sense. I feel like I'm expected to craft a response to all my comments, even the ones that just say "I liked this", and with kudos I don't have to. And it lets me tell an author I liked something without having to engage. I know one of the reasons some writers dislike kudos is because they want to be able to reply to and engage with all their readers, but sometimes I don't want to, and kudos means I can do that.

Plus, honestly, a lot of my fic would never, ever have any feedback at all if it weren't for kudos, and it's nice just getting something.

And yeah, that makes sense. If I have a really strong response to something then it does kind of feel like the author should know. I guess an extension of the "they have so many comments, mine don't matter" thing is feeling like someone else has probably already had the same reaction to a story that I did so my feelings aren't special and unique.

Yes, I secretly think I'm a huge special snowflake.

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concinnity April 10 2012, 00:01:25 UTC
Some of those guest kudos are mine! /o\ I keep getting logged out of ao3 and then I don't even realize until I hit the kudos button and then you can't kudos twice from the same computer - which, seriously, I wish there was a better system. I would kudos the heck out of some fics, you know? I want to kudos every time I read!! Anyway. I blame technology. Is what I am saying. Also this is a fabulous thread, jsyk. :D

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