I Found My Soul Mate, Have You?
Just read it, don't complain about LJ Cut. Haha.
When we are born it begins a journey. Along the way on this long, winding path we eventually end up seeking many things of which one is love. In the beginning, it's from our parents, then our family, community and so on. Eventually, assuming all goes right, we begin to find that we have a void within us which other forms of love can't seem to fill.
We've all known loneliness, a dark emptiness within our soul which seems to stretch for an eternity. We feel like we're a part of nothing, just drifting aimlessly upon the sea of humanity with no destination, nor land in sight. At times despair is like our wet clothing as we shiver cold and alone in the darkness. To distract ourselves we dream of "The One" and how they'll lift our spirits and take away the emptiness, this absence of life.
Eventually, for some, someone comes along and brings light to this darkness. But sometimes, as humans, we're by this time so starved to be "touched" that we unknowingly make compromises which, if we were rational, we would not make. Thus the saying "blinded by love". Because of these compromises we may never find our true pre-destined love.
Many of you now are not in a "soulmate" relationship. The truth is you got tired of waiting and you settled for the best "offer" at the time. This was your choice and now is your karma. But in your heart, in your soul, you know if someone is your soulmate for it goes beyond just love. It is a form of joining.
When you meet your soulmate, this person will have an instantaneous effect on you. A soulmate is someone who makes your knees go weak and you need to catch your breath. With but a single glance they lessen your burden and but a smile warm your heart. You'll feel a sense of connection (affinity) with this person. They'll touch you so deeply on so many levels that you'll want to share your innermost secrets. For the first time in your life someone will make you feel almost like a god. Once you've met your soulmate, for better or sometimes worse, your life will never be the same.
One of the things which makes this experience unique is the sense of a meaningful spiritual experience. You both feel like this is to be and that you've been together before in a past incarnation. Normally for some it is several months, weeks, or days before a higher level of connection occurs. But when you meet your soulmate, something happens. The pull or drive to be with this person overwhelms many and one finds it beginning basically in the initial meeting. There's a sense of safety with this person. You knowingly let go of your defenses as an empathic-like bond is formed. Unlike other relationships in the past there'll be no game playing or hidden agendas which plagued you in the past.
Sometimes the best way to find something is by not looking for it. With this in mind you'll probably meet your soulmate when you're not looking. Since life revels in making things difficult, you'll probably meet them in the morning when you're on the graveyard shift. For many it will be after a bad relationship or several bad relationships. If you're lucky you won't have to wait until you're fifty to meet your soulmate. But if you do, well at least you'll appreciate its significance more than someone in their twenties. You'll have had the benefit of experience, the perspective of age, and the knowledge that such love is once in a lifetime.
The point here is "serendipity" so forget about taking that singles bus tour to the circus. Sure, you'll meet a lot of nice people and perhaps you really should get out, but just be prepared to... well, meet some real clowns.
The universe is a funny place, don't be surprised if your soulmate is younger or older. Soulmates don't care about age. How much older or younger? From what I've seen, expect a 7 to 20 year difference.
There is something about the passion you share with a soulmate. It goes beyond just physical attraction. For a moment in time you two are the only ones who exist in the universe. Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls have intertwined themselves becoming one. Your personal energies meld and you feel the flame of creation move through you like an ocean wave on a hot summer's day. Soon you begin to lose track of where you begin and your partner ends. From within the depths of your passionate feelings for this person your soulmate will know and reciprocate those things which make you feel loved. They will look into your eyes and you will feel your soul open wide. For some people, there is the "rush". All the love, all the lust, all the need will surge forth from your souls like captives from a prison. At this moment you'll know what it means to get lost within someone's eyes. You'll experience a touch you've never felt before and your lust will rise to new levels. To put it simply, your soulmate will be able to make love to you in ways no one else will be able to match. It is within our nature as human beings to foul things up. The very thing which makes soulmate love so special is also the one thing which can bring it down. The simple fact is that unparalleled love and passion is terrifying to many people.
We learned how to have relationships from our parents or primary caregivers. If your primary caregiver's relationships were dysfunctional then chances are so are yours. There are many people in this world who in relationships maintain an extreme amount of emotional control. They take pride in the fact their partner is madly in love with them. By being able to "wrap them around their finger" they feel safer. Thus, all their relationships become based on this pattern. Then one day their soulmate comes along and wham! Quickly they discover the control over their heart and the relationship is gone. Now they must relate on a level playing field and, for many, they run.
For those of you who are runners let me tell you what you already know. It doesn't work. You can move to the other side of the planet, marry someone else and fill your spare time up with some cause.
But the simple truth is your soulmate will be there in your soul. No matter how hard you try, no matter how busy you make yourself, everyday they will enter your thoughts. So then many try and force them out by being with other people, but that doesn't work either, for afterwards you'll feel empty and cheated.
If you run then you've made the conscious choice to doom yourself and the other person to be haunted for the rest of your lives. Sure, eventually you may fall in love with someone who fits your
preconceived image or expectation (cute, rich, successful) of what your partner should be. But as time moves on you never forget. You always wonder and then eventually you regret.
I have a saying, and hold fast to this and share it too:
"A person who risks nothing...
Loves nothing...
Therefore, anything worth my love is worth a fight."
The soulmate relationship is worth putting up a fight but there comes a time when you have done all you can and you can do no more. At some point the one who runs has to choose to stop and come to their senses. Life, sadly, is cruel just as it is grand. Short of burying your child, losing your soulmate is indescribeable anguish.
It's like having half of your tender soul ripped from your body. You feel lost, abandoned, and betrayed. There's a sense of panic which permeates your very being and personal existence. You find yourself saying "never again". You did something you never had done before - you willingly let another in, all the way.
Eventually, after the shock, the depression comes, then the anger, and you just want it all to end. You wish you could just stop feeling but you can't and no matter how much you drink, smoke, or snort, you can't make the pain go away. Yes, regular love hurts too and badly, but when you lose a soulmate no matter how enlightened, wise, talented,or strong in both will and spirit you are, it is devastating. You are to remain strong and be of good courage. Nothing will overcome you.. unless you let it in, especially love or a soulmate.
In the end, we don't want to even see the person because that just tears open the wound over and over. Right or wrong, that's just the way it is. Eventually, you go on with your life and you stop hating them because like you... they'll never forget either.
Every now and then life gives us a happy ending. Sometimes, after trying to get their soulmate out of their minds, the "runner" comes to realize what they had lost. A few are wise enough to do whatever it takes to correct the situation and get back into their soulmate's arms. Hopefully, not enough time has gone by so that the situation is salvageable. But often times it is not. All I can say is TRY. With soulmates there is no pride and there CAN be forgiveness. We are destined to meet our soulmate... what you do after that is your choice.
We are born into this world alone and we begin our journey. If we are lucky we find the right partner... "The ONE" along the way. With this person we grow, learn, and experience the wonders of human existence. They become a part of us as we become a part of them. Eventually, our journey must end and as we were born - we die...with those who truly love us by our side. But in between these two points, hopefully we've learned, experienced, and wholeheartedly felt true love with the chance to pass it on to those we leave behind.
When we are born it begins a journey. Along the way on this long, winding path we eventually end up seeking many things of which one is love. In the beginning, it's from our parents, then our family, community and so on. Eventually, assuming all goes right, we begin to find that we have a void within us which other forms of love can't seem to fill.
We've all known loneliness, a dark emptiness within our soul which seems to stretch for an eternity. We feel like we're a part of nothing, just drifting aimlessly upon the sea of humanity with no destination, nor land in sight. At times despair is like our wet clothing as we shiver cold and alone in the darkness. To distract ourselves we dream of "The One" and how they'll lift our spirits and take away the emptiness, this absence of life.
Eventually, for some, someone comes along and brings light to this darkness. But sometimes, as humans, we're by this time so starved to be "touched" that we unknowingly make compromises which, if we were rational, we would not make. Thus the saying "blinded by love". Because of these compromises we may never find our true pre-destined love.
Many of you now are not in a "soulmate" relationship. The truth is you got tired of waiting and you settled for the best "offer" at the time. This was your choice and now is your karma. But in your heart, in your soul, you know if someone is your soulmate for it goes beyond just love. It is a form of joining.
When you meet your soulmate, this person will have an instantaneous effect on you. A soulmate is someone who makes your knees go weak and you need to catch your breath. With but a single glance they lessen your burden and but a smile warm your heart. You'll feel a sense of connection (affinity) with this person. They'll touch you so deeply on so many levels that you'll want to share your innermost secrets. For the first time in your life someone will make you feel almost like a god. Once you've met your soulmate, for better or sometimes worse, your life will never be the same.
One of the things which makes this experience unique is the sense of a meaningful spiritual experience. You both feel like this is to be and that you've been together before in a past incarnation. Normally for some it is several months, weeks, or days before a higher level of connection occurs. But when you meet your soulmate, something happens. The pull or drive to be with this person overwhelms many and one finds it beginning basically in the initial meeting. There's a sense of safety with this person. You knowingly let go of your defenses as an empathic-like bond is formed. Unlike other relationships in the past there'll be no game playing or hidden agendas which plagued you in the past.
Sometimes the best way to find something is by not looking for it. With this in mind you'll probably meet your soulmate when you're not looking. Since life revels in making things difficult, you'll probably meet them in the morning when you're on the graveyard shift. For many it will be after a bad relationship or several bad relationships. If you're lucky you won't have to wait until you're fifty to meet your soulmate. But if you do, well at least you'll appreciate its significance more than someone in their twenties. You'll have had the benefit of experience, the perspective of age, and the knowledge that such love is once in a lifetime.
The point here is "serendipity" so forget about taking that singles bus tour to the circus. Sure, you'll meet a lot of nice people and perhaps you really should get out, but just be prepared to... well, meet some real clowns.
The universe is a funny place, don't be surprised if your soulmate is younger or older. Soulmates don't care about age. How much older or younger? From what I've seen, expect a 7 to 20 year difference.
There is something about the passion you share with a soulmate. It goes beyond just physical attraction. For a moment in time you two are the only ones who exist in the universe. Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls have intertwined themselves becoming one. Your personal energies meld and you feel the flame of creation move through you like an ocean wave on a hot summer's day. Soon you begin to lose track of where you begin and your partner ends. From within the depths of your passionate feelings for this person your soulmate will know and reciprocate those things which make you feel loved. They will look into your eyes and you will feel your soul open wide. For some people, there is the "rush". All the love, all the lust, all the need will surge forth from your souls like captives from a prison. At this moment you'll know what it means to get lost within someone's eyes. You'll experience a touch you've never felt before and your lust will rise to new levels. To put it simply, your soulmate will be able to make love to you in ways no one else will be able to match. It is within our nature as human beings to foul things up. The very thing which makes soulmate love so special is also the one thing which can bring it down. The simple fact is that unparalleled love and passion is terrifying to many people.
We learned how to have relationships from our parents or primary caregivers. If your primary caregiver's relationships were dysfunctional then chances are so are yours. There are many people in this world who in relationships maintain an extreme amount of emotional control. They take pride in the fact their partner is madly in love with them. By being able to "wrap them around their finger" they feel safer. Thus, all their relationships become based on this pattern. Then one day their soulmate comes along and wham! Quickly they discover the control over their heart and the relationship is gone. Now they must relate on a level playing field and, for many, they run.
For those of you who are runners let me tell you what you already know. It doesn't work. You can move to the other side of the planet, marry someone else and fill your spare time up with some cause.
But the simple truth is your soulmate will be there in your soul. No matter how hard you try, no matter how busy you make yourself, everyday they will enter your thoughts. So then many try and force them out by being with other people, but that doesn't work either, for afterwards you'll feel empty and cheated.
If you run then you've made the conscious choice to doom yourself and the other person to be haunted for the rest of your lives. Sure, eventually you may fall in love with someone who fits your
preconceived image or expectation (cute, rich, successful) of what your partner should be. But as time moves on you never forget. You always wonder and then eventually you regret.
I have a saying, and hold fast to this and share it too:
"A person who risks nothing...
Loves nothing...
Therefore, anything worth my love is worth a fight."
The soulmate relationship is worth putting up a fight but there comes a time when you have done all you can and you can do no more. At some point the one who runs has to choose to stop and come to their senses. Life, sadly, is cruel just as it is grand. Short of burying your child, losing your soulmate is indescribeable anguish.
It's like having half of your tender soul ripped from your body. You feel lost, abandoned, and betrayed. There's a sense of panic which permeates your very being and personal existence. You find yourself saying "never again". You did something you never had done before - you willingly let another in, all the way.
Eventually, after the shock, the depression comes, then the anger, and you just want it all to end. You wish you could just stop feeling but you can't and no matter how much you drink, smoke, or snort, you can't make the pain go away. Yes, regular love hurts too and badly, but when you lose a soulmate no matter how enlightened, wise, talented,or strong in both will and spirit you are, it is devastating. You are to remain strong and be of good courage. Nothing will overcome you.. unless you let it in, especially love or a soulmate.
In the end, we don't want to even see the person because that just tears open the wound over and over. Right or wrong, that's just the way it is. Eventually, you go on with your life and you stop hating them because like you... they'll never forget either.
Every now and then life gives us a happy ending. Sometimes, after trying to get their soulmate out of their minds, the "runner" comes to realize what they had lost. A few are wise enough to do whatever it takes to correct the situation and get back into their soulmate's arms. Hopefully, not enough time has gone by so that the situation is salvageable. But often times it is not. All I can say is TRY. With soulmates there is no pride and there CAN be forgiveness. We are destined to meet our soulmate... what you do after that is your choice.
We are born into this world alone and we begin our journey. If we are lucky we find the right partner... "The ONE" along the way. With this person we grow, learn, and experience the wonders of human existence. They become a part of us as we become a part of them. Eventually, our journey must end and as we were born - we die...with those who truly love us by our side. But in between these two points, hopefully we've learned, experienced, and wholeheartedly felt true love with the chance to pass it on to those we leave behind.