Apr 28, 2004 00:27
Just a quick note 'cause I'm past curfew.
Chris-san: You want to know what we talk about after you leave the car? I'll tell you. We talk about you. We know you're going through some hard times at the moment, and we're all remembering when we went through those times as well. We're here for you, whether it seems like it or not. We understand the strange things that seem to happen to you and only you that leave you depressed and wanting more, yet feeling absurd for doing so.
I'm not here to tell you to deal with it; that's what I did, and I remember how "fun" that was. I'm simply telling you that there is no need for you to find that one perfect person that you can protect and call your own right now; that one person who by their mere existence and their love for you will simultaneously cure all your depression and unsure footing around the entirety of the opposite sex. Jason-san was right in that respect - you do not know exactly where you stand with each of us, and that's causing you mental problems of the third degree.
Mou.
You're a dear friend to all of us, and we all want to be there for you and help you through this, but if you continue to search for that one person out of all of us that will fix all your problems, you'll be waiting until the end of time. As Jonas-san said, this life is your journey, and yours alone to walk. We cannot lead you by the hand; we have our own paths to make out. We're here to be that lifeline - that heartstring that you need to tug in your darkest moments just to assure yourself that there is someone out there that truly cares about the outcome of it all.
That's what our group is about. We have enough on each of our plates to last us all fifty lifetimes or more - we understand that, and we do not seek to meddle so drastically about changing every one of us into the image of the perfect person we all seek. We simply understand, and hold out a hand to squeeze until the whole thing passes us by. Cling to the hand, but do not let it guide you. Your life does not rest on our paths, and our lives do not end or begin with yours.
No one but yourself can make you feel depressed. But don't fake happiness either. Smile when you're happy. Cry when you're sad. Get angry when you are angry. It hurts far more to hold everything inside. Don't let other people be your ruling stick - you are you. You cannot be judged by anyone elses flaws or perfections. Be yourself, and find your place. As long as you seek to please others - to make others happy - you will never find your own happiness. You can put the world before your own life, but until you have learned to put your own life before the world, you will never truly know how to love. You must first learn to be selfish, to know what that means, what it feels like, to enjoy the benefits of it, before you can give your love to another.
We have all learned things in our lives. Some the hard way, others through the mistakes of others. Take the advice we have to give, but let it come to you as well. If you do not understand the consequences, then there is no point to knowing how to avoid them in the first place.
See you in class. ^^