We're only temporary arrangements
by mariarita more awesome graphics at her graphic community.
Please read before adding me and read if you'be been cut from my f-list also
People come and go from our lives, we're only temporary arrangements in this big chaos of life.
People come into your life for a REASON, A SEASON or a LIFETIME.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or
make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real.
But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thanks for being a part of my life, whether you were / are / will be a reason,
a season or a lifetime.
There have been many times in my life that I've done something wrong,
that I've wronged somebody, sometimes without knowing so.
If we were once friends and I did something wrong to you
and that may have caused our friendship to end,
and it was my fault but never say 'sorry'
please say so, you'll find my heartfelt 'sorry'
not only typed but also written in my memories of our friendship.
There have been many times in my life that someone has done something wrong,
that someone has wronged me, sometimes without knowing so.
Believe me, I would have made you know in that case,
otherwise it was never a true 'wrong'.
There have been many times in my life that people have said some kind of "we should meet again someday for drinks and cheers" formula. If you don't trully MEAN it, don't say it. You can pretend once, even twice, but a thrice or four time it'll be obnoxiously blatant that you don't want to be with someone. Don't waste your tongue or fingertips then.
There have been many times in my life people have come, have asked for help and I've given it to them, then have totally forgotten about me. I don't care, I did my turn. It's not in me the free decision to ignore a free outstretched hand welcoming any other kind of petition for help. You ignore me, you lose what I have to further offer.
There have been many times in my life people with whom I've fallen apart have accused me of being resentful and bear grudges for the longest. It's easy, wrong me with ill will and you'll find just this side of me, just as you rejected the other side of me (softer and more stupid maybe ah?. This is the only face I have for those who trespass any kind of my limits.
It's a time since this journal is friends-only but decided to put a banner so anyone who comes now sees it and knows it ;D
Here at my lj you surely will find:
-*personal rants about stuff that happens to me and several other things including something as poetry, occultism, New Age stuff and what-not...
-* stuff about literary things (I'm somewhat a fluffly bookworm and sometimes I really enjoy ranting about books and about the essay papers I hand in at university.
I usually update though there are friends-filters and I am much more active on some of the fandoms/likes/interests than others...
depending on the level of acquiescence between you (the one there reading my posts!) and me you'll get to read my everyday rants about real life or not (although my own private real life ramblings will go to a separate lj most probably...)but I do comment on other people's posts.
Please before adding me read my profile and check we have something in common, random additions by people I don't know just make me don't friend them back and due to this being friends-only you'll see nothing and that ain't fun (I think...)So please comment and say hello.
If I have first added you that's because I've found in your lj something that appeals much to me (be it incredible art graphic, be it inspirational posts that make me think life is a beautiful thing or more things we may have in common)
If I don't comment in your posts that does not mean I don't care.
Sometimes I'm too busy with my work here around or my f-list is flooded so I may be late catching up with posts or I may feel I don't know you enough to comment (if the post is too personal) or that I'm already too late for comment on that (if days have gone by)
Also one thing I don't take much kindly is people treating others bad just 'cos they themselves have problems. I don't do that kind of thing and don't pay off on others my bad days or mood swings.(even though I myself am very moody) If you have problems there're ways to talk about them and help them out of your life but don't come over trying to trip me over. I always keep on taking that unkindly.
I don't want the drama, for all my drama needs I have real life and, believe me, I have enough stress and problems in real life to be having here anymore from just anyone.
If you want to talk about problems that's ok, I listen and I try to help you.
If you try to come over and create problems with me that's what I don't take kindly.
For all my ramblings and moody posts I've decided to create a separate lj where all posts are private and where I rant myself at pleasure.
That does not mean I don't read other rants or posts about real life. I do and offer a piece of advice and support as much as I can.
I AM friendly but as anyone else I have my own weirdness.
Accept it or not but don't come here to judge or trying to deliver some maturity lessons. I don't need them, not because I'm such a bitch that won't take up anyone's advice but the thing is the manner you may deliver those "lessons" and "who" you are in my life.
Everyone of us has its own weirdness, the key is respect.
Respect my own weirdness and I'll respect yours.
Respect others and I'll respect you, that's it.
You can question my actions and my ideas but don't question 'me'.
The person here writing in this blog is the same person no matter where on earth she is or to whom she is speaking to. I don't have duplicious identities or egoes (er...some voices in my head, nonetheless)I don't wear masks and I don't like lies. Whatever I say or write here is how I feel and will feel. I cannot say it'll be the truth 'cos there's no single virtual 'Truth' on earth...
Friendship is temporary, no matter how nice poets and advertisements want to make it sound... Even though , friendship is a golden thing in our lives to treasure and delight in. That's what it should be: a pleasure to speak to someone, a pleasure to listen to someone and know about their lives, something that delights, something that one does without thinking about costs, reasons or time.
The moment it delights not your inner soul, it benefits not.
If you ever are dropped from my friends list or are not friended back please don't take it as something personal, 'cos it'll be not intended to be something personal.
It may be just because interests shifts or that simply we have nothing that in common.
Or that my f-list is extremely flooded already as it is (too many communities already)
If it's something personal do not worry, I'll let you know (I'm a bitch like that...)'cos I don't like lying and above all I want to be honest with myself.
I cannot fake friendship, I cannot pretend what I am not. Don't expect me to, you'll be disappointed.
I don't want any attention whores, trolls, robots or anything like that friending my journal. If you are and have friended this journal I am sorry but I won't be friending back.
But even so I welcome any lj user with same interests and in the same communities as me to friend this journal.
The comments for this post will be all screened, so if you also have any complain/stuff about/for me, go ahead and say, it'll all remain between you and me. I won't take any kind of flaming activity against you. Just speak up and deliver your thoughts
If you've been dropped from my f-list and want an explanation as for that you can also say it here.
If you have added me to your friend list but I have not added you back you can also ask here for a reason (or just to remind me that you've added me!)
I always avoid hurtful words but that does not mean I don't like telling what's on my mind and my reasons to act 'weird'.It's only that I hate the feeling you get when people tell you nasty things, so having 'you' in mind, as always, I think it twice before hurting others as I don't like being hurt myself.
Should you want any like that reason just speak up here.
And now, after reading all this long paragraph: COMMENT ON THIS POST TO BE ADDED.
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Last edit/update on this post: Jul. / 2007