not out of line
I'm a little bit more tired today, and a little less here.
Now it's time for a rant. An LJ inspired rant.
I love online friends, for many reasons. I love having friends on my blogs because I love it when they note me and tell me their opinion on whatever. I love writing, also for many reasons. Mostly I love getting my thoughts and opinions out there. One would think that because it's my own journal that I'd be free to write whatever opinion came into my head at whatever moment. But, no.
I just got blasted by an LJ friend (one I love to read and comment a whole lot but not one that I talk to outside of LJ) for my last entry where I ranted about a stupid girl sitting behind me going on and on about losing weight. She said that behaviour like that was a psychological problem (uh I know). She also said that I was out of line, and for someone who complains a whole lot about other people judging before they go to know me, I'm sure as hell quick to judge other people. Here is her comment:
I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything, but I think that bit about the girl behind you was out of line, and it really hurt my feelings. I was like that at one point, and it's an actual mental problem, beyond the sufferer's control most times. I'm still recovering from anorexia and this girl looks to be in the same boat.
Girls like "that" may have a psychological problem. I know from experience that anorexia makes you think you're fat, even if you are the skinniest person in the room. It instills a sense of urgency.... lose, lose, lose and be skinny! maybe someone will love you!
I see you as a really unique person trapped in a sort of sucky life. I feel that way about myself. That girl may be the same way... someone totaly different than how she seems. You complain about people disliking you without knowing you, and being judgemental, but that's exactly what you were doing.
I don't know much about anorexia at all because I've never really suffered from it. That said, I'm sure that if I had anorexia and thought I was fat and needed to lose so much weight, I wouldn't publicise it to the world and make it known. Wouldn't I be ashamed that I was fat? Wouldn't I be sick of the people telling me I don't need to lose weight because I'm not fat? So then I would just not talk about it.
And girls like this, I know girls like this. They are as superficial as they come. She probably just wants to fit into some dress for some weekend party so that she can snag some idiotic boy. She probably bought a dress a few months ago and didn't realise that alcohol makes you put on weight. And in the odd scenario that this girl does have a psychological problem than of course I'd be the first to apologise about calling her shallow. Girls like this have been judging girls like me since the dawn of time. They are superficial by nature, and I am this way by nature (yea this goes back to school, this girl was in the group in her year that was the equivalent to the group in my year that bitched about me from time to time). I know the difference between someone who is suffering, and someone who wants to lose weight because they're stupid.
I know what I said could upset people like the LJ friend that commented me (she's a recovering anorexic) but I didn't draw comparisons between the two. My journal is my journal, full of my opinions. If I was writing for other people I'd be out of line, but if I was writing like that I'd have to keep out all the good stuff. I apologised for hurting her feelings, but I wasn't out of line. With it being my personal space to vent (to which people are free to read) I would have thought that there would be no problem with me posting anything. Anything could potentially hurt someone. Today it's me complaining about a stupid girl who just wants to lose weight, tomorrow it's going to be something else.
And yes I judge people. And I'm not ashamed. But I'll usually give people a second chance to prove me wrong. And that's usually when they do something that proves me right.
Edit* She cut me from her friends list. Posted about how she was doing a friends cut (which is definately true, she now has like ten friends and I know they're her closest cause I always see their comments) so oh well. I pissed her off. She cut me. I guess the internet is just like the real world!
Now it's time for a rant. An LJ inspired rant.
I love online friends, for many reasons. I love having friends on my blogs because I love it when they note me and tell me their opinion on whatever. I love writing, also for many reasons. Mostly I love getting my thoughts and opinions out there. One would think that because it's my own journal that I'd be free to write whatever opinion came into my head at whatever moment. But, no.
I just got blasted by an LJ friend (one I love to read and comment a whole lot but not one that I talk to outside of LJ) for my last entry where I ranted about a stupid girl sitting behind me going on and on about losing weight. She said that behaviour like that was a psychological problem (uh I know). She also said that I was out of line, and for someone who complains a whole lot about other people judging before they go to know me, I'm sure as hell quick to judge other people. Here is her comment:
I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything, but I think that bit about the girl behind you was out of line, and it really hurt my feelings. I was like that at one point, and it's an actual mental problem, beyond the sufferer's control most times. I'm still recovering from anorexia and this girl looks to be in the same boat.
Girls like "that" may have a psychological problem. I know from experience that anorexia makes you think you're fat, even if you are the skinniest person in the room. It instills a sense of urgency.... lose, lose, lose and be skinny! maybe someone will love you!
I see you as a really unique person trapped in a sort of sucky life. I feel that way about myself. That girl may be the same way... someone totaly different than how she seems. You complain about people disliking you without knowing you, and being judgemental, but that's exactly what you were doing.
I don't know much about anorexia at all because I've never really suffered from it. That said, I'm sure that if I had anorexia and thought I was fat and needed to lose so much weight, I wouldn't publicise it to the world and make it known. Wouldn't I be ashamed that I was fat? Wouldn't I be sick of the people telling me I don't need to lose weight because I'm not fat? So then I would just not talk about it.
And girls like this, I know girls like this. They are as superficial as they come. She probably just wants to fit into some dress for some weekend party so that she can snag some idiotic boy. She probably bought a dress a few months ago and didn't realise that alcohol makes you put on weight. And in the odd scenario that this girl does have a psychological problem than of course I'd be the first to apologise about calling her shallow. Girls like this have been judging girls like me since the dawn of time. They are superficial by nature, and I am this way by nature (yea this goes back to school, this girl was in the group in her year that was the equivalent to the group in my year that bitched about me from time to time). I know the difference between someone who is suffering, and someone who wants to lose weight because they're stupid.
I know what I said could upset people like the LJ friend that commented me (she's a recovering anorexic) but I didn't draw comparisons between the two. My journal is my journal, full of my opinions. If I was writing for other people I'd be out of line, but if I was writing like that I'd have to keep out all the good stuff. I apologised for hurting her feelings, but I wasn't out of line. With it being my personal space to vent (to which people are free to read) I would have thought that there would be no problem with me posting anything. Anything could potentially hurt someone. Today it's me complaining about a stupid girl who just wants to lose weight, tomorrow it's going to be something else.
And yes I judge people. And I'm not ashamed. But I'll usually give people a second chance to prove me wrong. And that's usually when they do something that proves me right.
Edit* She cut me from her friends list. Posted about how she was doing a friends cut (which is definately true, she now has like ten friends and I know they're her closest cause I always see their comments) so oh well. I pissed her off. She cut me. I guess the internet is just like the real world!