WDIHTDD?
In from Dan Savage: Maybe this seems kind of familiar?
Dear Dan: I'm a 30-year-old woman in a relationship with my childhood sweetheart. My boyfriend and I got together when we were 15. That's 15 years ago. It was-and remains-an intense and extraordinary intellectual compatibility. He's the funniest and smartest person I have ever met. OK, cutting to the chase: I have never slept with another man, and I don't want to. But I no longer want to have sex with him, and I've been having sex with women behind his back. I have long been attracted to women and suspect that I would be in a relationship with one now if my life had taken a different path. I love my boyfriend, his family, our friends, our life. But nothing makes me feel more "me" than lying next to a woman after we have gotten each other off for hours on end. Do I come out and wreck my life and his, all because of one small part of who I am? Or do I stop being an unfaithful bitch and make things work with the man I love?
Why Do I Have to Dig Chicks?
First off, WDIHTDC, no one has to dig chicks; it's an elective, not a course requirement. (Except at Brown, of course.)
Now, seeing as you and your boyfriend are young enough to get out there and find new partners relatively easily, and seeing as this man whom you profess to love has a right (1) not to be lied to for the rest of his life; (2) not to be cheated on for the rest of his life; and (3) to be with a woman who actually wants to have sex with him, there's only one possible course of action here. Thank your boyfriend for his years of faithful service, honor his service, and then cut his ass loose.
If you play your cards right, WDIHTDC, you may be able to keep your ex, his family, and your mutual friends in your life. But if you continue to lie and cheat and munch carpet on the down-low, and you get caught and outed, it's unlikely that your ex, his family, and your mutual friends will want to see your lying, cheating, carpet-munchin' face ever again.
Dear Dan: I'm a 30-year-old woman in a relationship with my childhood sweetheart. My boyfriend and I got together when we were 15. That's 15 years ago. It was-and remains-an intense and extraordinary intellectual compatibility. He's the funniest and smartest person I have ever met. OK, cutting to the chase: I have never slept with another man, and I don't want to. But I no longer want to have sex with him, and I've been having sex with women behind his back. I have long been attracted to women and suspect that I would be in a relationship with one now if my life had taken a different path. I love my boyfriend, his family, our friends, our life. But nothing makes me feel more "me" than lying next to a woman after we have gotten each other off for hours on end. Do I come out and wreck my life and his, all because of one small part of who I am? Or do I stop being an unfaithful bitch and make things work with the man I love?
Why Do I Have to Dig Chicks?
First off, WDIHTDC, no one has to dig chicks; it's an elective, not a course requirement. (Except at Brown, of course.)
Now, seeing as you and your boyfriend are young enough to get out there and find new partners relatively easily, and seeing as this man whom you profess to love has a right (1) not to be lied to for the rest of his life; (2) not to be cheated on for the rest of his life; and (3) to be with a woman who actually wants to have sex with him, there's only one possible course of action here. Thank your boyfriend for his years of faithful service, honor his service, and then cut his ass loose.
If you play your cards right, WDIHTDC, you may be able to keep your ex, his family, and your mutual friends in your life. But if you continue to lie and cheat and munch carpet on the down-low, and you get caught and outed, it's unlikely that your ex, his family, and your mutual friends will want to see your lying, cheating, carpet-munchin' face ever again.