For Luke.
Intimacy and sex are not the same thing.
Intimacy is composed of gestures that show a level of thought and insight into a love that is rarely surpassed. Intimacy is evidence that humans are greater than the sum of thier parts, and that is truly our potential which can make us soar.
In this regard, potential of insight, observation and compassion. It's always about the little things. Sure, someone can lick you between the legs and claim that's intimacy, but it's not. It's a far more intimate thing to know exactly how someone likes thier clothes folded, how far below the rim they like their cups filled, which brand of toothpaste they like best and that they always mess up doing thier hair whenever they try anything with it.
Sex can be intimate, and intimacy can lead to sex, but these ideas ARE mutually exclusive.
Knowing just what to whisper into a loved one's ear, with which tone and when to make them melt is intimate and can lead to sex, but it's not sex in and of itself.
What so few virgins know, perhaps none of them know, is that sex is just an excersize in physics and thermodynamics. It isn't referred to as "bumping uglies" for no reason. Between those and love, it can lead to powerful and perhaps increased emotions, but compared to being in the middle of the act, seeing that special someone's eyes light up and thier warm smile makes my heart melt a lot more.
Also, a lover remembering a special pet name I like to be called and saying it softly at an unexpected time with a look in thier eyes just for me can make my heart beat a lot faster than a simple kiss.
Just like a friend using one word to intentionally reference something hilarious that happened in the middle of a joke can make it funnier, so do these things build.
Luke, I know right now you think sex is the be all and end all, but the blunt truth of the matter is it's because you've never had it. You claim if I find mr.right there's a potential that he'll be disgusted by the number of lovers I've had.... that while I find it a small number, some may not. You ask of me, if you've already given your body away, what do you have left to give to a husband [or wife]?
I'll tell you again: My heart.
All the little things like being willing to make breakfast just the way they like it just about every morning. Knowing which way they prefer to have the toilet paper on the roll. Using the brand of shampoo I know they like the smell of best. Going through hell just to see them smile. Ignoring pain so they won't have reason to worry about me. Being there to listen, even when I don't like what I'm hearing. Doing little things that I'm not entirely comfortable with like clipping thier toenails, or even gasp, preparing a food that really grosses out because I know they like it .
I'll tell you again; these are more important, more intimate, and more evidant of love than the simple act of sticking a penis somewhere.
Intimacy is composed of gestures that show a level of thought and insight into a love that is rarely surpassed. Intimacy is evidence that humans are greater than the sum of thier parts, and that is truly our potential which can make us soar.
In this regard, potential of insight, observation and compassion. It's always about the little things. Sure, someone can lick you between the legs and claim that's intimacy, but it's not. It's a far more intimate thing to know exactly how someone likes thier clothes folded, how far below the rim they like their cups filled, which brand of toothpaste they like best and that they always mess up doing thier hair whenever they try anything with it.
Sex can be intimate, and intimacy can lead to sex, but these ideas ARE mutually exclusive.
Knowing just what to whisper into a loved one's ear, with which tone and when to make them melt is intimate and can lead to sex, but it's not sex in and of itself.
What so few virgins know, perhaps none of them know, is that sex is just an excersize in physics and thermodynamics. It isn't referred to as "bumping uglies" for no reason. Between those and love, it can lead to powerful and perhaps increased emotions, but compared to being in the middle of the act, seeing that special someone's eyes light up and thier warm smile makes my heart melt a lot more.
Also, a lover remembering a special pet name I like to be called and saying it softly at an unexpected time with a look in thier eyes just for me can make my heart beat a lot faster than a simple kiss.
Just like a friend using one word to intentionally reference something hilarious that happened in the middle of a joke can make it funnier, so do these things build.
Luke, I know right now you think sex is the be all and end all, but the blunt truth of the matter is it's because you've never had it. You claim if I find mr.right there's a potential that he'll be disgusted by the number of lovers I've had.... that while I find it a small number, some may not. You ask of me, if you've already given your body away, what do you have left to give to a husband [or wife]?
I'll tell you again: My heart.
All the little things like being willing to make breakfast just the way they like it just about every morning. Knowing which way they prefer to have the toilet paper on the roll. Using the brand of shampoo I know they like the smell of best. Going through hell just to see them smile. Ignoring pain so they won't have reason to worry about me. Being there to listen, even when I don't like what I'm hearing. Doing little things that I'm not entirely comfortable with like clipping thier toenails, or even gasp, preparing a food that really grosses out because I know they like it .
I'll tell you again; these are more important, more intimate, and more evidant of love than the simple act of sticking a penis somewhere.