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One of the reasons I didn't move with K was because I believe I need to get better at managing my own social life. With K around, I'd just spend all my time with them. Between not having a daytime engagement yet (so anti-valuing my weeknights alone) and not being willing to invite myself into people's houses, I've been kind of failing. So how do
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1: I suspect some interests, particularly nerdy niche ones, simply are too narrow to have/maintain a social group centered around them; or if you can, it's very rare and not something you should count on being able to do.
Some interests may be non-conducive to sociability - rather than dwelling on them, find others and parallelize your search. Even if you're not sure you'll like them, you'll be doing something, getting experience, and hopefully meeting new people.
2: It's not clear what interests you're talking about, and the answer probably varies. For a narrow interest, you're probably not going to randomly stumble across similarly-minded people in day-to-day life, so the challenge is locating them. Start by searching not for the people/groups, but for places where they would gather/hang out/frequent. If appropriate, try to use this to determine if there are existing groups you can join. For example, say it's tabletop gaming - go to Pandemonium and talk to the workers, see when gaming nights are. Outdoorsy stuff -> REI. Cooking -> Whole Foods. These examples probably aren't as narrow as what you're thinking of, so you'll have to extrapolate. When you engage in your interest, what do you do, where do you go, how do you show it off? Whatever the answer, start there.
Be prepared for another layer of indirection. Assuming you do pick up leads, they might not be good enough to stop searching, but hopefully you can iterate the process and hill climb.
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