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[kyrandil]

One of the reasons I didn't move with K was because I believe I need to get better at managing my own social life. With K around, I'd just spend all my time with them. Between not having a daytime engagement yet (so anti-valuing my weeknights alone) and not being willing to invite myself into people's houses, I've been kind of failing. So how do

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[redcat9]

As someone who generally has too much social opportunity and not enough time/energy, I can at least tell you how I got that way, even if it's useless to you.

Step 1 was finding a group of people that were cool, I already knew, but didn't hang out with much (this was UC for me after I graduated--my senior year I probably did absolutely nothing social outside of the dorm). Making an active effort to get together with them gave me a "default" social group that, even if nothing big happened, I'd probably see once every week or two.

Step 2 was attending a very high percentage of parties and such to which I was invited. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to go, but I inevitably have a good time, so now I force myself to.

Step 3 is that I developed a lot of activities that other people seem to find interesting, like dancing, rock climbing, WoW, and archery. I do nearly all of these things solo, but if I want company it is never lacking.

Step 4 was that for awhile I actively invited people out to meals. I have stopped doing that because I want to eat out less and wanted to have fewer commitments, but it definitely worked.

I am long-winded. :)

[jennyelfenmass]

This is a lot of what I did, especially the forcing myself to go to parties even if I didn't feel up to it at first. They kept me reasonably well occupied.