so i have a lavalife account. they send emails every so often (monthly?)
this was included in the one i got today
Sarah Fielding
Take a leaf out of successful daters' handbook with these essential items every self-respecting single should own.
1) A Mobile Phone
A mobile phone is crucial to dating success because it allows you to be contactable at all times, meaning you never miss the opportunity for a hot date. Having a phone handy means you can also inform a date if you're running late, or if there's been a change of plans.
2) A Pair of Good Shoes
Having a great pair of shoes is less about slavish fashion tendencies and more about exhibiting a polished, well-groomed look. Every single should own one pair of shoes that are easy to wear, are a classic design (simple style and neutral colour) and are in good repair (not scuffed to within an inch of their lives or held together with electrical tape).
3) Great Underwear
Guys and girls, if you're serious about dating invest in some luxury underwear -- a matching set for girls (but nothing too raunchy), and for guys, a pair of classic designer boxer shorts in cotton, or if you want to splurge, silk. No satin or novelty prints please! Make sure your smalls are clean and hole-free.
4) A Killer Outfit
Every single should own one outfit that makes them want to shout, "I'm so hot right now." Ladies, it's that dress or slinky top that makes you look like you've been poured into it. Guys, it's that pair of jeans that make your butt look perfect, or that shirt that fits you perfectly and accentuates the color of your eyes.
5) A Hot Photo of Yourself
Having a great photo of yourself is wonderful for your self-esteem, as well as a great memento of an exciting time in your life. A photo of you looking hot is a dating essential -- you can use it to revamp your profile, or add it to your Lavalife Backstage Area and save it for showing a select few. Enlist a friend with a camera, jazz yourself up, channel your inner Brad/Angelina, and say cheese.
6) A Well Stocked Bar
Successful singles know the advantage of a well stocked bar at home. Start with a selection of bottled beers, a bottle of red and white wine (chilled and ready to go, of course), a brown spirit (scotch or bourbon) and a white spirit (vodka or white rum). Have a range of clean, suitably sized glasses on hand, a bottle or two of mixer, and a supply of ice in the freezer. Cheers.
7) Good Make-Out CDs
Any top-notch single will attest to the power of a good make-out CD, so it's important to ensure your CD collection has broad appeal. Some classics include Marvin Gaye, Barry White and Frank Sinatra, while for a modern take on make-out music think Coldplay, Portishead, or Norah Jones. (Don't forget the creamy warmth of downbeat electronica like Norway's Röyksopp --Ed)
8) A Cookbook
Make sure your kitchen contains at least one cookbook that's suited to your cooking ability -- be it toasted sandwiches or a five-course meal. Being able to turn out a handful of palatable offerings from your own kitchen will make you -- guys and girls alike -- appear sexy, confident and in control. Your date will love the fact that you care enough to whip up something homemade for them (and just think of all the money you'll save on take-out).
9) Safe Sex Stash
Perhaps the most essential of The Essentials is a thoughtfully assembled safe sex stash in your bathroom or bedroom. Fill it with an assortment of condoms, water-based lubricant (try the new heated variety, infinitely more pleasant to use in the winter months), and of course, tissues. Nothing kills the mood faster than a mad scramble around the house at 2 am looking for condoms.
10) A Good Set of Sheets
Many a great date has been let down by the sorry state of their bedclothes. Invest in a set of the best sheets you can buy (or better still, hit your family up for a set next birthday or Christmas). One hundred per cent cotton is superior, Egyptian cotton reputedly the best; the higher the thread count, the more luxurious. There's nothing sexier than the smell and feel of freshly laundered sheets as you slide into bed.
Armed with these tips from the pros, your dating game just got a whole lot smoother, sleeker and sexier. Game on.
a cookbook? like wtf. someone cooking might impress me but id be more impressed if they werent following a recipe