Coming Out
My coming out story is a little twisted. Growing up I always knew I was different. I found during Middle school I had a strong attraction to other guys. This was confusing to me since I grew up in a very religious family. I found that I had to hide my true feelings. I hid this all through high school. I found it hard to break free of the perception of How I was suppose to act. During my second year at college I had my first physical interaction with a guy. His name was Rod and we dated for couple of months. I like Rod a lot but when Rod said he Loved me I freaked out and to my regret left him. I found comfort in acting straight because I had done it for so long. I messed around with guys but would never admit it to anyone. Finally after a year I admitted it to my best friend Missy in college. I was so relieved to have told someone. Shortly after telling her I was gay she admitted to me she was a lesbian. It was perfect we someone I could relate to. Missy came from the same background as me. Religious southern baptist family.
At this point in our lives neither of us were ready to come completely out of the closet. So we hashed a plan. We planned on fooling our families by getting married. So on July 24 1999 we got married. We had the full ceremony southern baptist style.We played the the married life game for two years. Everyone thought we were a happy couple. The fact of the matter is we had bought a two bedroom condo. Which I took the master suite and she lived in the other room. We both had separate relationships during this time. Finally after two years I had found a guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I told Missy I wanted a divorce. I wanted to finally be me.
So I knew it was time to officially come out. thinking about it now I really should of done it in a different fashion. My mother and I have a very close relationship. So one night I went to her home knowing she would be the only one home. I was waiting at the kitchen table for her.She walked in the door and she saw me and immediately asked me what was wrong. I couldn't hold it in anymore I blurted out Missy and I are getting a divorce and then right after I said it I blurted and I'm Gay. Two whammies back to back. My mother didn't talk to me for about two months after this.
It was a rough time in my life. One day my phone rang and it was my mother. She said she couldn't live with out me in her life. Since that time we have become close. She has become extremely accepting as well as the rest of the family.
I get a kick now a days when I hear my family refer to Derek and I as Partners.
At this point in our lives neither of us were ready to come completely out of the closet. So we hashed a plan. We planned on fooling our families by getting married. So on July 24 1999 we got married. We had the full ceremony southern baptist style.We played the the married life game for two years. Everyone thought we were a happy couple. The fact of the matter is we had bought a two bedroom condo. Which I took the master suite and she lived in the other room. We both had separate relationships during this time. Finally after two years I had found a guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I told Missy I wanted a divorce. I wanted to finally be me.
So I knew it was time to officially come out. thinking about it now I really should of done it in a different fashion. My mother and I have a very close relationship. So one night I went to her home knowing she would be the only one home. I was waiting at the kitchen table for her.She walked in the door and she saw me and immediately asked me what was wrong. I couldn't hold it in anymore I blurted out Missy and I are getting a divorce and then right after I said it I blurted and I'm Gay. Two whammies back to back. My mother didn't talk to me for about two months after this.
It was a rough time in my life. One day my phone rang and it was my mother. She said she couldn't live with out me in her life. Since that time we have become close. She has become extremely accepting as well as the rest of the family.
I get a kick now a days when I hear my family refer to Derek and I as Partners.