Opportunities
I could call my wife more often. Today I thought of an item we didn't have on our list and I texted her thinking that that was sufficient notification. One shower later and I decide to call her to verify that she not only read but was reminded of my communication.
"Did you manage to read my text? Don't forget the toilet paper."
"Yep, got it. I added it to the list."
"Wonderful! Thank you, babe.
"You're very welcome. Love you."
"Love you."
"Bye"
"Bye"
All is right in the world... for now.
This reminds me of another incident I had between the landlord of property I own and the tenants to whom I sublet. This initially presented as a conflict with no clear winner. I could have acted as a middleman between these two parties, and I often do. It keeps me out of the conflict and I don't need to involve myself in what is otherwise a successful 1hr/week job that pays much. However, it was something of a surprise - even to me - that though I was able to meet a satisfactory agreement between myself and the lord, I was able to use this as an opportunity to appear as a hero to my tenants and as a reasonable employer that can compromise and even flatter to agreement for the lord. Sometimes a conflict may only be resolved with another conflict which you know you can win - especially when you are a savvy architect to said conflict. I think of Niccolo Machiavelli.
More to the point: It's useful to find opportunities to improve relations even when you don't think it necessary.
"Did you manage to read my text? Don't forget the toilet paper."
"Yep, got it. I added it to the list."
"Wonderful! Thank you, babe.
"You're very welcome. Love you."
"Love you."
"Bye"
"Bye"
All is right in the world... for now.
This reminds me of another incident I had between the landlord of property I own and the tenants to whom I sublet. This initially presented as a conflict with no clear winner. I could have acted as a middleman between these two parties, and I often do. It keeps me out of the conflict and I don't need to involve myself in what is otherwise a successful 1hr/week job that pays much. However, it was something of a surprise - even to me - that though I was able to meet a satisfactory agreement between myself and the lord, I was able to use this as an opportunity to appear as a hero to my tenants and as a reasonable employer that can compromise and even flatter to agreement for the lord. Sometimes a conflict may only be resolved with another conflict which you know you can win - especially when you are a savvy architect to said conflict. I think of Niccolo Machiavelli.
More to the point: It's useful to find opportunities to improve relations even when you don't think it necessary.