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I don't know why people always want to control your life like it's theirs...
I find it funny how these people try to be good friends, when, in reality, they really don't accomplish this goal. I honestly think a friend should be there to listen, offer support, and have good intentions, among a plethora of other qualities; being a friend shouldn't be about dictating how someone should live their life according to your own values and beliefs on how life should be. Everyone's different, just accept that. If you don't like something that someone's doing, let them know how you feel about it and let that person make a decision on what their course of action will be. If they want to do what they want, as a responsible adult, you have to let them do it, you can't act as if you're their Mom or Dad. But, if they want to change, let them change. And if they ask for help, help them. Don't give the person an ultimatum devised on your terms, because it isn't about you. If you're going to help, help them by working with them, so the two of you can come to a equal and fair solution. I don't think you should pressure the person, also. Obviously, if it's a big enough issue, pressuring them won't make their decision-making any easier for them to do, nor will it be well thought-out. Finally, if you commit yourself to helping you friend, don't just abandon them if their choice isn't to your liking. Not only is that fucked up that you just snaked your "'friend", but that's just a dirty betrayal against your relationship as friends.
... because if they do that, maybe they weren't really as good of friends as they thought they were.
Or maybe it's better to control your friend's life... I mean, after all, you always know best, right?
I find it funny how these people try to be good friends, when, in reality, they really don't accomplish this goal. I honestly think a friend should be there to listen, offer support, and have good intentions, among a plethora of other qualities; being a friend shouldn't be about dictating how someone should live their life according to your own values and beliefs on how life should be. Everyone's different, just accept that. If you don't like something that someone's doing, let them know how you feel about it and let that person make a decision on what their course of action will be. If they want to do what they want, as a responsible adult, you have to let them do it, you can't act as if you're their Mom or Dad. But, if they want to change, let them change. And if they ask for help, help them. Don't give the person an ultimatum devised on your terms, because it isn't about you. If you're going to help, help them by working with them, so the two of you can come to a equal and fair solution. I don't think you should pressure the person, also. Obviously, if it's a big enough issue, pressuring them won't make their decision-making any easier for them to do, nor will it be well thought-out. Finally, if you commit yourself to helping you friend, don't just abandon them if their choice isn't to your liking. Not only is that fucked up that you just snaked your "'friend", but that's just a dirty betrayal against your relationship as friends.
... because if they do that, maybe they weren't really as good of friends as they thought they were.
Or maybe it's better to control your friend's life... I mean, after all, you always know best, right?