It isn't usually framed that bluntly though. During a campaign to define marriage in CA, about 10 years ago now, the ads would go on and on about how they're not trying to stop anyone from visiting their loved ones in the hospital, they just want to make the word "marriage" all special and exclusive. I didn't exactly believe them at the time, but I thought that maybe they were fooling themselves. "We don't hate gays, we're just freaking out about this one word, and if you'd leave it alone it'll be okay." But no, they really just hate gays, and I'm sorry I even listened to their other arguments in the attempt to reason with them.
I feel a little like I did when I realized that anti-abortion advocates aren't actually worried about the fetus, for all they like to scream about murder, they really just want to oppress/punish sexuality especially in women. It's hard to have a conversation with people who aren't willing to examine their own motives, and I feel like an idiot for trying to address the wrong issue.
Also, having it be all about hate is really depressing, because hate is so hard to fight.
I feel a little like I did when I realized that anti-abortion advocates aren't actually worried about the fetus, for all they like to scream about murder, they really just want to oppress/punish sexuality especially in women. It's hard to have a conversation with people who aren't willing to examine their own motives, and I feel like an idiot for trying to address the wrong issue.
Also, having it be all about hate is really depressing, because hate is so hard to fight.
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