Gah!

[ktmoss]

I am not a patient person. I do not like to go about the "normal" way of interacting. The process takes too long. Why is it considered weird to just go up to a person and just say, "Hi! I think you're fascinating and I would like to get to know you better. If you're interested in pursuing a friendship, let's have coffee. If not, okay." I

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[edrake]

Personally, I think I'm with you. I hate the whole beating around the bush....it most often results in never actually hanging out with that person. I tend to find quasi friends around school whom I think very highly of, and we make a cool connection in class or rehearsal or something, but since I'm so busy (and lost in my student/faculty/in-between role, and mostly content with my group of percussion boys, and rather socially dysfunctional with most other females) I rarely (read: never) see any of them outside of school. That was a long sentence with too many parentheses.

In short, I might be caught off-guard if someone approached me out of the blue, but being comfronted and having to react in the moment would force me into making a real friend (who didn't play percussion :).

Another thought: sometimes I wish I weren't so freaked out by other women. I'm far more natural at building friendships with guys, but that type of relationship often gets misread as something romantically or physically based, from the other person's side or from the outside. ...Which is too bad, y'know? It's a shame that it's difficult for men and women to be close without some assumption that it's more than a close friendship.

Anyway. I'm off my soapbox now, I promise. ;) I do think that I'd be more likely to walk up to other dudes and initiate the "I think you're fascinating, let's be friends" conversation if I could be confident it wouldn't be misconstrued. :sigh: Perhaps I need to get over my girly adversion and make real girl friends. :-p