altfriday5: New Relationship Energy
Late again. A consistent theme in my life. :)
From the altfriday5:
1. Had you heard the term "NRE" before today? If not, what do you think of it? Is it a useful term, in your opinion? If yes, how familiar were you with it? How much have you used it? Yeah, I remember first reading about it in polyamory communities here on LJ, when I was exploring that aspect of relationships when I was 19 or so. I guess it's a useful term, although I hate acronyms, so no, I don't really use it myself (at least not in acronym form, and I don't really do a whole lot of relationship-related discussion, anyway).
2. How do you generally behave and feel when you are experiencing NRE? In other words, what are your NRE "symptoms"? Silly school-girl type shit: giggling; getting all smiley when the person I feel the New Relationship Energy for(/with?) is around, or even if I just hear/see something I can somehow relate to them; acting shy and foolish in their company; listening to sappy love songs and lying in bed daydreaming about weddings
3. Do your relationships generally begin with NRE? Do you think there's a difference between the ones that did and the ones (if any) that didn't? Hmm. Past relationships of mine had it; I mostly think back on it as intense sexual chemistry and intensity from the get-go, and while that's fun and everything, eventually it does die down (surprise) and you're left with all the rest of the person and if you neglected a lot of that early on, sometimes it's not so pleasant. Haha. As far as the difference between ones that had NRE and ones that didn't, maybe time will tell...
4. Do you like being in the NRE state? Do you tend to seek it out? It's exhilarating and fun, and I'm a junkie for that sort of "high" feeling, so yes, I suppose I enjoy it. It used to be what I based my potential with a prospective partner on, but lately I've been seriously considering and maybe altering my idea of what compatibility really is. I've become rather cynical about relationships in general (not that my opinion of them was necessarily high to begin with - I'll elaborate on that if you're curious), especially the types you see in film and other media with all that mushy shit (though I like cuteness!), the "dream come true" type stuff, so... yeah, that mentality lends itself to not really actively seeking anything, as far as relationships are concerned.
Wow I hope that blurb I typed makes sense. Too many commas and parentheses...
5. How long does NRE tend to last for you? Is it difficult for you when it ends? Do you have trouble transitioning to the post-NRE phase of a relationship? I don't know. My longest relationship to date is 8 months, if that means anything to you. I ended my past relationships mostly because of loss of NRE, so I guess I'd say I do have some trouble with the transition. Or used to. Or that I was just dating the wrong people. ;)
Man, I was all psyched about this topic when I first started filling out my answers, then by the end I felt like I was just regurgitating vocabulary from the question, like I used to do on those "short answer" questions on tests in high school when I had no idea what the fuck I was talking about. Yikes. Sleepy time soon, I'm crashing!
From the altfriday5:
1. Had you heard the term "NRE" before today? If not, what do you think of it? Is it a useful term, in your opinion? If yes, how familiar were you with it? How much have you used it? Yeah, I remember first reading about it in polyamory communities here on LJ, when I was exploring that aspect of relationships when I was 19 or so. I guess it's a useful term, although I hate acronyms, so no, I don't really use it myself (at least not in acronym form, and I don't really do a whole lot of relationship-related discussion, anyway).
2. How do you generally behave and feel when you are experiencing NRE? In other words, what are your NRE "symptoms"? Silly school-girl type shit: giggling; getting all smiley when the person I feel the New Relationship Energy for(/with?) is around, or even if I just hear/see something I can somehow relate to them; acting shy and foolish in their company; listening to sappy love songs and lying in bed daydreaming about weddings
3. Do your relationships generally begin with NRE? Do you think there's a difference between the ones that did and the ones (if any) that didn't? Hmm. Past relationships of mine had it; I mostly think back on it as intense sexual chemistry and intensity from the get-go, and while that's fun and everything, eventually it does die down (surprise) and you're left with all the rest of the person and if you neglected a lot of that early on, sometimes it's not so pleasant. Haha. As far as the difference between ones that had NRE and ones that didn't, maybe time will tell...
4. Do you like being in the NRE state? Do you tend to seek it out? It's exhilarating and fun, and I'm a junkie for that sort of "high" feeling, so yes, I suppose I enjoy it. It used to be what I based my potential with a prospective partner on, but lately I've been seriously considering and maybe altering my idea of what compatibility really is. I've become rather cynical about relationships in general (not that my opinion of them was necessarily high to begin with - I'll elaborate on that if you're curious), especially the types you see in film and other media with all that mushy shit (though I like cuteness!), the "dream come true" type stuff, so... yeah, that mentality lends itself to not really actively seeking anything, as far as relationships are concerned.
Wow I hope that blurb I typed makes sense. Too many commas and parentheses...
5. How long does NRE tend to last for you? Is it difficult for you when it ends? Do you have trouble transitioning to the post-NRE phase of a relationship? I don't know. My longest relationship to date is 8 months, if that means anything to you. I ended my past relationships mostly because of loss of NRE, so I guess I'd say I do have some trouble with the transition. Or used to. Or that I was just dating the wrong people. ;)
Man, I was all psyched about this topic when I first started filling out my answers, then by the end I felt like I was just regurgitating vocabulary from the question, like I used to do on those "short answer" questions on tests in high school when I had no idea what the fuck I was talking about. Yikes. Sleepy time soon, I'm crashing!