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[kryofdistress]

GMO!!! If Wess foesnt stop writing sadd shit.....grrrrrrrrrrrrrr....I dont even know why he is so sadd, he seems perfectly fine around me :( I just saw him yesterday and he seemed fine...I dunno what to do, I dunno if it is my fault he's so sadd or not,I cant stand not knowing it hurts :( I hate it I wish he would tell me what goes on :( He

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[anonymous]

So maybe I don't have a right to intervene on this subject. However, I was under the impression that this livejournal was public for all to comment on for a reason. If you don't want people in on your shit then don't put it publicly. Get an old fashioned notebook with little flowers and cartoons to hide under your matress.

Wes, None of this had anything to do with the fact that I'm Diana's cousin. I still feel the same way about the situation regardless. Kill the drama already. There's no way that you can have them both. You can't keep playing the head games. You tell Diana that you love her and want to marry her. Also that you no longer want to be with Melissa. But then you stick up for Melissa when someone says something. Make up my mind here. You're asking for the light bulb so I try to show you. Granted, it may not seem "right" or whatever but its definately not right to lead them both on like this. If Melissa loves you, she'll understand and let you go. If you'd rather stay with her and break off the engagement with Diana then do so. You can't keep riding this out for the next 2 and a half years. If you plan on being able to marry her some day, you'll definately have to be completely open on everything. You can't have a successful relationship with out communication. I had to learn that the hard way. You and Melissa can still be friends. There is no law against that. But please, whatever you do, don't stay with her if the only motivation for it is sympathy. Do it for her sake. No, I don't know any of you very well. However, I do understand what's going on. I've kinda been there in your shoes Wes. Except, mine had been the opposite of course... I was with a guy for a year and 9 months. He had given me a promise ring like 8 months into it, I believe. He was hoping he could get me an engagement ring but couldn't afford it at the time. Then I met this really great guy after my fiance had moved for college. Me and the guy(Sean) became really great friends and he knew how I had been upset and everything. Sean completely understood but didn't want to be with me if I was still with my fiance(Nick). Finally I broke it off for good with Nick because I was just hurting too much and I knew it was hurting Sean to see me like that because of Nick. So maybe it is a little different but the circumstances are highly similar.

You've come to the fork in the road. They both love you. I'm not saying you have to choose Diana over Melissa but I'm not condoning that you stay with Melissa too. Be honest with them both. It'll take away a lot of your stress and you'll be able to be happy. I know you are very caring when it comes to both of them but doing this is unconsciously hurting them both as well as yourself.

Bonna

[kryofdistress]

I was actually going to leave a comment here giving credit to the maturity in the advice given......then I read the first comment....and that took away the respect I thought the comment earned. Sure you can analyze the situation and express your thoughts on it, and maybe even be right about some of your comments, but noone is going to listen when the comments come from the same person who can sit here and type so cowardly. Throwing mean comments around about people you have never met only shows your own true colors.
Marie