Hypothetical revealed ... you be the judge(s) ...
Ok ... MANY of you said that you'd want to know so you could make your own assessment, etc. If you AREN'T one of those, please stop HERE - believe me you don't wanna keep reading - hehe.
For those of you still following along ...
I do believe that we all have the right to know that someone we correspond with online is who they claim to be. I understand that some create fictitious personalities and such, but to be honest, I don't usually go the extra mile for those people knowingly. This person I have spent many hours chatting with, talking on the phone, emailing, etc. and to me, that constitutes more than just "someone" I read about for entertainment purposes. I spent much time counseling probs and such with her and I don't do that for people that aren't my "friends". It is also my opinion that there will be some folks hurt by this revelation. To those, I'm sorry to be the one to do this, but I have to do what I believe is right here.
I emailed her earlier this week to let her know my thoughts, ask some questions, etc. and asked her to reply. I still haven't heard a peep from her. I told her in the email that I would be posting it if I didn't hear back from her by the following day. So now it's Friday, two days after I emailed her, and there's still no word. I've tried to call her cell a few times and it's gone to voicemail after ringing quite a bit.
At this point I'm done. It is my belief after all the evidence that the LJ CSI team compiled, that melkbell is not who she claims to be. I don't know who she really is, but I do know that she's NOT who/where she claims here on LJ. So I guess now, if she's a friend of yours too, you should read the following email that I sent to her and come to your own conclusions. Nobody is asking you to unfriend anyone. I guess it's more about informing you so that YOU can be fully aware of the findings. Then you are free to make up your own mind about how much you trust this person with your information, etc.
Dear Mel …
By now, I’m sure that you’ve read my post from yesterday stating that I have 98% proof that someone on here is not who they claim. I cannot tell you how much it pains me that that person is YOU. Someone I have trusted and built a relationship with.
Over the past year there have been things that have made me raise an eyebrow here and there. Things that made me question how “X” could be if “B” is really the truth. There were a lot of things that didn’t add up. Way back then I decided to track ip’s on you and was a little concerned when they didn’t match up. In fact, so much so that I specifically asked you where you were on a few occasions to give you the chance to BE where your ip said you were. That too didn’t match. In fact they were (and continue to be) direct into Calgary, Canada when you specifically told me you had just gotten back home to NC into your own home. I even checked to see if there was any way that they were re-routed and was surprised to see that they were direct connections - no spoof’s at all.
Then came the bigger and better stories … I had someone do a check on your supposed husband … no such person in the Marines (believe me this person would have found him if so as they have the “in’s” for the military bases). The tornado - I did a search on titles for you both. There is no property in either name that could possibly belong to you. I also traced the cell number you gave me - also Canadian (not to mention it came back on my cell bill as a call to Canada). From what I understand, it would be crazy to keep a Canadian cell here in the states because you’d have international charges all the time.
My last step … calling Craven Regional to ask for you when you were supposedly on your shift. No such person works there. I asked for you by BOTH names too.
So this is where I am now … you are not who you represent yourself to be. I have considered you a friend and I’d like to get some answers. Why are you claiming to be someone you aren’t?
I know for a fact that I am not the first one to call you on this and I also know that you never replied to one of those emails addressing this. Well, this is the one and only chance for you to reply. You read my post from yesterday about false identities and you know how many people answered my questions as well as how many will take things that I say without too much question. I wouldn’t be writing this unless I had already done more than enough research. You can’t say that I’m psycho and tripping out on you as there are too many who know that’s not my style. It wont work this time. So, you can either answer my email and address my questions and concerns, or I will post this letter, in it’s entirety, as my next post. It’s up to you.
I guess I should also tell you this. As you know, I have plenty of sources that allow me to find out quite a bit. You should also know that I am definitely NOT alone in this endeavor. There are quite a few people on LJ that have been working diligently to gather the information we needed in order to be sure … and some aren’t even on either of our lists. This isn’t because I have it out for you … actually quite the opposite … I’d like to know who you REALLY are? Who have I been sharing my life with in reality?
Time for things to be set straight my dear … the next move is yours.
Kristy
For those of you still following along ...
I do believe that we all have the right to know that someone we correspond with online is who they claim to be. I understand that some create fictitious personalities and such, but to be honest, I don't usually go the extra mile for those people knowingly. This person I have spent many hours chatting with, talking on the phone, emailing, etc. and to me, that constitutes more than just "someone" I read about for entertainment purposes. I spent much time counseling probs and such with her and I don't do that for people that aren't my "friends". It is also my opinion that there will be some folks hurt by this revelation. To those, I'm sorry to be the one to do this, but I have to do what I believe is right here.
I emailed her earlier this week to let her know my thoughts, ask some questions, etc. and asked her to reply. I still haven't heard a peep from her. I told her in the email that I would be posting it if I didn't hear back from her by the following day. So now it's Friday, two days after I emailed her, and there's still no word. I've tried to call her cell a few times and it's gone to voicemail after ringing quite a bit.
At this point I'm done. It is my belief after all the evidence that the LJ CSI team compiled, that melkbell is not who she claims to be. I don't know who she really is, but I do know that she's NOT who/where she claims here on LJ. So I guess now, if she's a friend of yours too, you should read the following email that I sent to her and come to your own conclusions. Nobody is asking you to unfriend anyone. I guess it's more about informing you so that YOU can be fully aware of the findings. Then you are free to make up your own mind about how much you trust this person with your information, etc.
Dear Mel …
By now, I’m sure that you’ve read my post from yesterday stating that I have 98% proof that someone on here is not who they claim. I cannot tell you how much it pains me that that person is YOU. Someone I have trusted and built a relationship with.
Over the past year there have been things that have made me raise an eyebrow here and there. Things that made me question how “X” could be if “B” is really the truth. There were a lot of things that didn’t add up. Way back then I decided to track ip’s on you and was a little concerned when they didn’t match up. In fact, so much so that I specifically asked you where you were on a few occasions to give you the chance to BE where your ip said you were. That too didn’t match. In fact they were (and continue to be) direct into Calgary, Canada when you specifically told me you had just gotten back home to NC into your own home. I even checked to see if there was any way that they were re-routed and was surprised to see that they were direct connections - no spoof’s at all.
Then came the bigger and better stories … I had someone do a check on your supposed husband … no such person in the Marines (believe me this person would have found him if so as they have the “in’s” for the military bases). The tornado - I did a search on titles for you both. There is no property in either name that could possibly belong to you. I also traced the cell number you gave me - also Canadian (not to mention it came back on my cell bill as a call to Canada). From what I understand, it would be crazy to keep a Canadian cell here in the states because you’d have international charges all the time.
My last step … calling Craven Regional to ask for you when you were supposedly on your shift. No such person works there. I asked for you by BOTH names too.
So this is where I am now … you are not who you represent yourself to be. I have considered you a friend and I’d like to get some answers. Why are you claiming to be someone you aren’t?
I know for a fact that I am not the first one to call you on this and I also know that you never replied to one of those emails addressing this. Well, this is the one and only chance for you to reply. You read my post from yesterday about false identities and you know how many people answered my questions as well as how many will take things that I say without too much question. I wouldn’t be writing this unless I had already done more than enough research. You can’t say that I’m psycho and tripping out on you as there are too many who know that’s not my style. It wont work this time. So, you can either answer my email and address my questions and concerns, or I will post this letter, in it’s entirety, as my next post. It’s up to you.
I guess I should also tell you this. As you know, I have plenty of sources that allow me to find out quite a bit. You should also know that I am definitely NOT alone in this endeavor. There are quite a few people on LJ that have been working diligently to gather the information we needed in order to be sure … and some aren’t even on either of our lists. This isn’t because I have it out for you … actually quite the opposite … I’d like to know who you REALLY are? Who have I been sharing my life with in reality?
Time for things to be set straight my dear … the next move is yours.
Kristy