Trouble in Paradise
I think I married the wrong person
From: kristenkalani
Date: 7/7/2006 at 5:33 PMI've been married almost a year and I'm content and comfortable, but not very happy. I have always loved my husband, but more of a best friend sort of way. I've thought many times that if we broke up, I wouldn't be devestated.
We've always had our own lives, therefore now it feels like a roommate situation. I have known since the beginning that he is very selfish in that he surfs all day and does what he wants. It use to bother me a lot and is the only issue we argue about. Now I'm too the point where I just don't want this anymore. He says he is going to change, but he has said that for 4 years. I know I can't let the past effect me, but it's hard to believe him.
I don't want to settle and deep down, my gut is telling me that I am. My instincts tell me that this is not what's best for me, or for him. I am happy with him, but I'm not passionately in love with him and I can truly see us seperating.
Please advise
From: kristenkalani
Date: 7/7/2006 at 5:33 PMI've been married almost a year and I'm content and comfortable, but not very happy. I have always loved my husband, but more of a best friend sort of way. I've thought many times that if we broke up, I wouldn't be devestated.
We've always had our own lives, therefore now it feels like a roommate situation. I have known since the beginning that he is very selfish in that he surfs all day and does what he wants. It use to bother me a lot and is the only issue we argue about. Now I'm too the point where I just don't want this anymore. He says he is going to change, but he has said that for 4 years. I know I can't let the past effect me, but it's hard to believe him.
I don't want to settle and deep down, my gut is telling me that I am. My instincts tell me that this is not what's best for me, or for him. I am happy with him, but I'm not passionately in love with him and I can truly see us seperating.
Please advise