private, public, private.
it is not okay to judge people without giving them a chance. first impressions do not count. just because someone lives their life differently, it does not make them an awful person. everyone has flaws, but the point is to get over them and appreciate each person for their good qualities instead of focusing on the bad.
the rule of thumb is this: do not automatically assume that you know the whole story. there is always more to it, and most of the time it's something that can't be explained. give other people the benefit of the doubt. there is a reason some information is concealed, and if you really want to know the truth behind everything, you have to put in an effort. you cannot judge someone based on the littlest bit of information.
it is also not okay to judge a person based on another person's view of them. we are all individuals with independent thought, and everyone is allowed to make their own opinion by themselves. everything is a he-said-she-said, so if you weren't there, you can't say you know 100% what the situation is, because it didn't happen to you. so instead of taking sides, try going into it neutrally before you hurt everyone else's feelings. jumping to conclusions has never really worked in the end.
it is okay to feel the things you feel, but it is not okay to take it out on the people around you. there are better ways to deal with this. communication is important. at the same time, we should not dictate each other's lives. everyone is allowed to surround themselves with the type of people they want to be around (and this goes for everyone: for me, for you, for everyone else). people are not always wolves in sheep's clothing, but rather, they are USUALLY sheep in wolves' clothing, you just have to look a little harder.
I do not always make the best decisions, but I know what I'm doing and I know what I can and can't handle. I am at a good position in life right now, and it isn't fair for others to bring me down because of their own negative feelings. I'm willing to listen, but I'm not willing to be insulted. I am not a bad person and I am not a bad friend, so to judge me based on one simple thing, and to judge me based on other people who DO NOT DEFINE ME whatsoever, is just a catastrophe waiting to happen.
I always see people in a good light before assuming they are wrong. not just in this situation, but in all the other ones in the past. and this is not a bad thing, because I've been happy for most of my life despite all my hardships, and if I've been happy, then who's to say I'm doing something wrong? I've been happy because I'm an open person with open thoughts and I treat most people with the friendliness that they, as people, deserve.
/rant.
the rule of thumb is this: do not automatically assume that you know the whole story. there is always more to it, and most of the time it's something that can't be explained. give other people the benefit of the doubt. there is a reason some information is concealed, and if you really want to know the truth behind everything, you have to put in an effort. you cannot judge someone based on the littlest bit of information.
it is also not okay to judge a person based on another person's view of them. we are all individuals with independent thought, and everyone is allowed to make their own opinion by themselves. everything is a he-said-she-said, so if you weren't there, you can't say you know 100% what the situation is, because it didn't happen to you. so instead of taking sides, try going into it neutrally before you hurt everyone else's feelings. jumping to conclusions has never really worked in the end.
it is okay to feel the things you feel, but it is not okay to take it out on the people around you. there are better ways to deal with this. communication is important. at the same time, we should not dictate each other's lives. everyone is allowed to surround themselves with the type of people they want to be around (and this goes for everyone: for me, for you, for everyone else). people are not always wolves in sheep's clothing, but rather, they are USUALLY sheep in wolves' clothing, you just have to look a little harder.
I do not always make the best decisions, but I know what I'm doing and I know what I can and can't handle. I am at a good position in life right now, and it isn't fair for others to bring me down because of their own negative feelings. I'm willing to listen, but I'm not willing to be insulted. I am not a bad person and I am not a bad friend, so to judge me based on one simple thing, and to judge me based on other people who DO NOT DEFINE ME whatsoever, is just a catastrophe waiting to happen.
I always see people in a good light before assuming they are wrong. not just in this situation, but in all the other ones in the past. and this is not a bad thing, because I've been happy for most of my life despite all my hardships, and if I've been happy, then who's to say I'm doing something wrong? I've been happy because I'm an open person with open thoughts and I treat most people with the friendliness that they, as people, deserve.
/rant.