Help us get rid of this pedophile website!

[krisssa]

I went to this website and it is disgusting. It talks about pedophilia as a sexual "orientation" and talks about how sad it is for the people who's families were not supportive of them "coming out." Children do not have the abilities to decipher intimate love and sexuality- their brains are still developing, so any adult who is in love with a child

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[crinkle]

I signed... how can something like that be legal? That's just... well there's no words to describe it.

[krisssa]

I know, that's what I thought too. EWWW.

[crinkle]

As you know my past, that stuff just hits too close to home. Also considering using something as a pretty website to kind of bribe kids into it =o(

[krisssa]

Exactly! It's horribly sad and I'm so glad you stood up and signed the petition. A woman told me the other day that she was victimized as a child, and then said she didn't think it was "that bad" because it was a cousin of hers, not an adult. We quickly took care of that myth! Anytime anyone is violated, it's a horrible offense that can hurt a person emotionally and physically. It is NEVER ok, no matter who is offending the child.

I'm so proud of you for being able to admit to what happened, because so many people are ashamed and think it's their fault. I'm sure sometimes you have felt that way, but this is part of the path to healing.

And I agree with you completely about the site- it does seem to talk girls into it!

[crinkle]

Well, I didn't tell anyone for a long time, but that's because I blocked it all out. This hits even more close to home for me, because the fact they're using something to be able to do it (pretty websites), I know what that's like because that's what he did to me, he told me I would get lollies if I did what he said (yeah, lollies, sounds so bad lol) I thought awesome! But then I didn't know what he was doing, but knew I didn't like what he was doing.

[krisssa]

It's so confusing for kids, and it makes sense that you blocked it out for so long. What happened that made you remember it? And how old was he/how old were you when this was going on? It's very scary and confusing when someone tells you to do something (especially when they bribe you!) Did he ever tell you not to tell anyone? I'm sorry for asking so many questions, I don't really know the story, only the gist of what happened. No one should have to go through what you did (or what these other poor girls are going through!)

[crinkle]

I read this book, which was quite triggering for me, but it had this one passage in it, let me find it.

"This memory had come back to me after years when I had hidden it away. The only way a child's mind can deal with actions of monsters is to forget as quickly as possible - blank everything out and hope it will never happens again. And if it does, blank it out again. But as an adult, you pay dearly for these acts of self-defence. The abusers, meanwhile, are free to get on with their lives. Some of them are married with children and grandchildren. Others live in respectable religious retirement, having devoted their lives to Our Saviour and the Church. Age is rotting their bodies but I am still rotting inside from their actions. They might slip away but I am dying inside a little bit more every hour of every day."Anyways, no-one could have put exactly how that feels like any better

[krisssa]

Wow, that's an amazing quote. Thanks for posting it here for me to see.

Do you have any idea why he did those things? Was he abused as well as a child, or was this control? Has he ever talked to you about it since?

I agree, it's terrible- and I would never wish it on anyone either.

I think the child's mind DOES blank out a lot of things. It must have been so scary when you remembered it all of the sudden. I'm so sad for you. :(

[crinkle]

Not really. Well, he's pretty screwed up, because his real dad left when he was a baby, and he was supposed to meet him one day, but he never showed up, then he died in prison. And no, he's never spoken to me about it. I refuse to talk to him now, not only because of this, but a lot of other reasons. I think honestly he would just deny it anyways.

It does, it's like this one time, I was talking to my sister inlaw, and she was talking about how once I went to the movies to meet some "friends" and they didn't turn up, but I honestly don't remember it. I don't talk to her anymore though lol.

It was a few years ago now I remembered, but yeah it was kind of scary, but it also made me realise why I was like the way I am.