May 23, 2005 15:28
A message to all:
"Secrets secrets are no fun, secrets secrets hurt someone."
Secrets:Finding out hurtful information
-If someone tells you right away, it hurts but it shows honestly, loyalty and establishes trust with the telling of the information. It's also easier to get over because it makes everything clear. (Secrets put people in the dark but when you're the one keep it, then you're the one who turned out the lights.)
-If it was being kept from you for awhile then it hurts worse and it causes a loss of trust. It also makes you feel like someone didn't think you were a good enough person to handle it.
You may think you're preventing someone from being hurt by keeping something from them but nothing can be hidden forever. It's worse to figure it out yourself than it is if your told right away.
Trust; I have a problem finding people who can gain that.
Loyalty; I have a problem finding people with that too.
Secrets are dishonorable to the one keeping it, they're cowardly. Secrets are disgraceful to those it's being kept from, they're being told that they're not brave enough to handle things. An honorable person never disgraces another person.