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Ok this will be a pointed post, but also open to everyone to learn from. I do not mean to hurt anyone's feelings or to cause any problems, although this probably will do both of those things. First, let me start by saying that the truth is NOT always an option...y'all all know this. Second, gossip sucks it starts up rumors that get everyone confused and end up with everyone pissed off at each other. Now EVERYONE is guilty of gossip. Don't try to deny it, you just are. The trick to surviving this crazy, mixed-up world we live in, is to not always believe all that you hear and see and to not let everything said about or to you affect you. Learn to let things roll of your back like the water off a duck's back. (Sorry bad analogy..it's late) But, I digress. Back to the point.
If you are upset with somebody. Don't talk about them. Don't say bad things about them. It WILL come back to bite you in your ass one day. Remember the (now) famous quote from a Mr. John D. Pritchett: Karma is a dick and it will take you up the ass. Accounts that are not first-hand are often (if not always) skewed to serve the purposes of the individual telling you the story, whether consciously or sub-consciously. Now I will admit to many a time having said mean things about people when upset with them, and it bit me in the ass later. Often I will say something bugging me about someone either in jest or seriously to a friend.
If it gets around what I said about the person, they will take it the wrong way...I am still their friend, I just needed to vent. The problem occurs when people are actually pissed off at someone and go off on them in a public forum such as this one.
Now for the slightly hypocritical part:
John: You made a post the other day directed to me...this post did not upset me because at the time I deserved most of it...plus I know your a pretty emotional (bad word choice, I know) fellow. Other people, who will remain between those that know, didn't realize what was up and went off on you. You then proceeded to respond. That is all well and good. The problem is that I should have posted this much sooner. I will no longer listen when one friend talks bad about the other...everyone is guilty of it, this is just a single example, not meant in any way as the only example. If I start to talk bad about a friend: stop me, it just isn't right. Hell, I don't care if you're talking bad about an acquaintance of mine...if you don't have the right, I will call you out.
If you are upset with somebody. Don't talk about them. Don't say bad things about them. It WILL come back to bite you in your ass one day. Remember the (now) famous quote from a Mr. John D. Pritchett: Karma is a dick and it will take you up the ass. Accounts that are not first-hand are often (if not always) skewed to serve the purposes of the individual telling you the story, whether consciously or sub-consciously. Now I will admit to many a time having said mean things about people when upset with them, and it bit me in the ass later. Often I will say something bugging me about someone either in jest or seriously to a friend.
If it gets around what I said about the person, they will take it the wrong way...I am still their friend, I just needed to vent. The problem occurs when people are actually pissed off at someone and go off on them in a public forum such as this one.
Now for the slightly hypocritical part:
John: You made a post the other day directed to me...this post did not upset me because at the time I deserved most of it...plus I know your a pretty emotional (bad word choice, I know) fellow. Other people, who will remain between those that know, didn't realize what was up and went off on you. You then proceeded to respond. That is all well and good. The problem is that I should have posted this much sooner. I will no longer listen when one friend talks bad about the other...everyone is guilty of it, this is just a single example, not meant in any way as the only example. If I start to talk bad about a friend: stop me, it just isn't right. Hell, I don't care if you're talking bad about an acquaintance of mine...if you don't have the right, I will call you out.