What do you think?
“We Are What We Repeatedly Do. Excellence, Therefore, Is Not An Act But A Habit.” -Aristotle
You know I had a friend come to me recently as pose a question. The question was why they consistently go after the wrong person and look for love in all the wrong places (yes, I know that last part is from a song…but that is exactly the way she said it).
I did my best to help with the answer I gave. I’m not sure if I did help but I don’t think that is why she came to me. She wanted someone to listen and that is something that I am always here for. So after our conversation I really didn’t give that subject much thought and I went on with life (which right now is crazy busy).
The last few days and my dealings with a few of my friends have made me take a look at myself, which in my opinion is always a good thing. The only way to truly make changes in yourself for the better is to see what you need to change.
As most of you know I am single and I don’t date very much. I am slow to move into any relationship, which is a stark contrast from most of my decisions. I will shave my head because I feel like it one morning or make a road trip just because. Being slow to act is not something that is normally a trait for me with dating being the main exception.
So back to what I saw when I looked at myself. I don’t date much but it seems I am drawn to the same type of women all the time. I’m not going to go into what type of women that I am drawn to but there are definitely always some strong similarities and to this point it hasn’t really turned out all that well for me.
The reason that I am sharing this at all is so that I can ask the question to all of you (my friends and also those of you who just happened to see this little blog as you were passing by): Why are we attracted to the same types of people, even when we know that isn’t what we need?
I know I do it…and I know that what I “want” and what I “need” aren’t the same thing right now. That is why I am slow to move into anything. I don’t want to hurt anyone else and I really don’t want to get hurt again myself.
*side note* What I told my friend when she came to me was this, “What we want and what we need are very seldom the same thing. When we can get those two to be the same thing we will stop chasing after the wrong people and looking for love in the wrong places.”
You know I had a friend come to me recently as pose a question. The question was why they consistently go after the wrong person and look for love in all the wrong places (yes, I know that last part is from a song…but that is exactly the way she said it).
I did my best to help with the answer I gave. I’m not sure if I did help but I don’t think that is why she came to me. She wanted someone to listen and that is something that I am always here for. So after our conversation I really didn’t give that subject much thought and I went on with life (which right now is crazy busy).
The last few days and my dealings with a few of my friends have made me take a look at myself, which in my opinion is always a good thing. The only way to truly make changes in yourself for the better is to see what you need to change.
As most of you know I am single and I don’t date very much. I am slow to move into any relationship, which is a stark contrast from most of my decisions. I will shave my head because I feel like it one morning or make a road trip just because. Being slow to act is not something that is normally a trait for me with dating being the main exception.
So back to what I saw when I looked at myself. I don’t date much but it seems I am drawn to the same type of women all the time. I’m not going to go into what type of women that I am drawn to but there are definitely always some strong similarities and to this point it hasn’t really turned out all that well for me.
The reason that I am sharing this at all is so that I can ask the question to all of you (my friends and also those of you who just happened to see this little blog as you were passing by): Why are we attracted to the same types of people, even when we know that isn’t what we need?
I know I do it…and I know that what I “want” and what I “need” aren’t the same thing right now. That is why I am slow to move into anything. I don’t want to hurt anyone else and I really don’t want to get hurt again myself.
*side note* What I told my friend when she came to me was this, “What we want and what we need are very seldom the same thing. When we can get those two to be the same thing we will stop chasing after the wrong people and looking for love in the wrong places.”