"I wake up in the morning, and I'm two years old again. Eventually, I make my way up to my age," she says to me while we're both sitting on the bus going to the same place, "but it takes me a while
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Powerful stuff indeed, even if I can't entirely agree with your conclusions.
In the first place, there are surely some workers in these and other aspects of the sex trade who are there voluntarily, and lumping them all into the victim bag disempowers them all as much as exploiting them does. As I often say in dealing with differently enabled people, it's polite to offer help, but not to give it without their consent.
In the second place, I have no time for well-intentioned meddling in what is a personal choice. If one is addicted, it is a matter of choice to seek help in overcoming that addiction. Just complaining about it to random strangers is not seeking help: it's seeking guests for a pity party. Add a request for leads on help, and that changes, or accept a polite offer of help, but the complaint is not the same as the effort. Freedom demands personal responsibility, and that implies the right to choose not to improve one's behaviour, knowing that one also accepts the cost of that refusal.
As a customer purchasing goods or services in a legal transaction, I am dealing in good faith that the other parties involved are also dealing freely and of their own will in the transaction. Whether it is tobacco, alcohol or a sexual product or service, I reject your neo-puritanical interference in someone else's affairs. I don't ask for your approval in this, because it is not your approval that will make me change that of which you disapprove.
If I am not free to do lawfully that of which people disapprove, I am not free. There are limits under the law, but even laws change if persuasion prevails.
In the first place, there are surely some workers in these and other aspects of the sex trade who are there voluntarily, and lumping them all into the victim bag disempowers them all as much as exploiting them does. As I often say in dealing with differently enabled people, it's polite to offer help, but not to give it without their consent.
In the second place, I have no time for well-intentioned meddling in what is a personal choice. If one is addicted, it is a matter of choice to seek help in overcoming that addiction. Just complaining about it to random strangers is not seeking help: it's seeking guests for a pity party. Add a request for leads on help, and that changes, or accept a polite offer of help, but the complaint is not the same as the effort. Freedom demands personal responsibility, and that implies the right to choose not to improve one's behaviour, knowing that one also accepts the cost of that refusal.
As a customer purchasing goods or services in a legal transaction, I am dealing in good faith that the other parties involved are also dealing freely and of their own will in the transaction. Whether it is tobacco, alcohol or a sexual product or service, I reject your neo-puritanical interference in someone else's affairs. I don't ask for your approval in this, because it is not your approval that will make me change that of which you disapprove.
If I am not free to do lawfully that of which people disapprove, I am not free. There are limits under the law, but even laws change if persuasion prevails.
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