Didi Benami Plays With Fire

[koganbot]

Erika brings up Didi's "Play With Fire" over on the Didi-Rhiannon thread, and I talk about it on the Freaky Trigger canon thread. Here's what I say:

Saw Crystal Bowersox and Didi Benami from Stones night on American Idol, and for the second week in a row I thought that, although Bowersox' vocals were stonger and richer and more self-assured, it

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[koganbot]

I like your interpretation too. The song is vague enough to support a number of them.

I assume from the verses that the narrator thinks the girl is slumming and therefore potentially treating him/her as a rich girl's toy. So the chorus is the warning not to do that (though what backs up the warning is left to our imagination).

The owning of weakness comes because if you have to assert you're strong, then the strength is at least in question. Of course, if this were, say, a Ludacris lyric, then I'd be the one bringing the idea of potential weakness to the experience of the song (which doesn't mean it's not there, that I'm the one bringing it); but for me, since the words are Jagger's,* the weakness and the struggle are there by implication, 'cause they're there in others songs of his. But of course the listener is free to choose how much strength or weakness to hear, and which to identify with - this is one reason the Stones made big bucks.

The Rolling Stones "Play With Fire"

For reference: "Heart Of Stone," written one year earlier.

*I believe they are; the song is credited to the pseudonym "Nanker Phelge," but I think that was Jagger, Richards, and Phil Spector. Jagger is generally assumed to be in charge of the lyrics.

[edgeofwhatever]

Actually, what backs up the warning isn't left to our imagination. The first two verses are about how the girl is rich, the mother is an heiress, and the father would be there to complete the happy family if he could -- but the next two verses are about how the father stole the mother's diamonds, the mother (if I'm understanding the Knightsbridge/Stepney reference correctly) is stuck in a shitty neighborhood, and the girl will end up living with her if she doesn't watch out.

My confusion came from the fact that Didi sings "but don't play with me" throughout, which doesn't make it clear what the threat is. (Poor people are powerful too? She's powerful because she's poor? But the rich girl's family seems to have been through some shit too!) But Jagger changes it to "so don't play with me"after the last two verses, clearly implying that he could do the girl what the father did to the mother.

[koganbot]

Well, there's ambiguity both in who the "old man" is - is it the mother's father or the mother's husband; if the latter, isn't the mother still fixed for life? - and what "took her" means: brought her or took away from her? Mom could just be slumming in Stepney, like daughter is slumming with Mick/Didi. But I've never really thought about it to the extent you just have, and your interpretation holds together, though it still doesn't explain how Mick/Didi is going to manage to take her and leave her broke. And how did Dad manage to get Mom's things from her anyway, especially if he couldn't even be bothered to break away (from his mistress, presumably) and visit Mom once in a while? It's possible that Jagger didn't work out these questions either.

One of my favorite Jagger lyrics is in "High And Dry" where he goes, "Anything I wished for I only had to ask her/I think she found out it was money I was after/High and dry, oh, what a weird letdown/She left me standing here just high and dry."