I like you for who you are. There's more than one reason why I do not live at home and several states away from my family.
Personally, I treat Furry as a hobby more than my life. Currently, it is part of my life since it's my art at the moment with the costumes.
I consider who I keep closest to me in my life my family. I rarely hear from my brother (who wasn't the most mature person growing up or very independent, but I'm sure he's grown up some since 2004 when I moved and probably last saw him), and periodically my folks. I get chastised at times, and when I was 18 my dad told me I couldn't get a job without him or at 19 my costume (Rollie) was a waste of time. 9 years later seeing photos of my work changed his mind. I still get flack from my mom for not dressing or acting like a girl, but seeing her after three years she was happy for me. I generally don't tell my folks about my personal life style choices (which I can talk about in private if you want). I just don't want to deal with opinionated aging NYC Jew parents and only update them that I'm fine, the car's running, I'm still making projects, I'm eating okay, healthy, and Robert is doing fine.
I'm sorry your mom's comparing you to other folks. It seems like a stereotype at times. I met someone at a wedding who's family is Chinese who's mom also did that to her. She's very beautiful, looks a bit like Margret Cho, and is a lil heavy. Not horribly, but enough to have her mom poke at her weight and other things while growing up (mostly school related).
I have something for you also at AC. Look for a red panda with green gift bags (or maybe he'll text you first).
First of all Chilly thank you very much for read this post and made kind comments *hugs* :) and thanks for always be here for me and always so supporting.
Hmm me and my family are a bit awkward, we all need each other in certain ways but we never faced the fact that we need each other. When my parents starts complaining about how much they want me to grow and to expend, I expressed my idea of moving to a different state and go see things and work a different job, they dropped their jaws. They know better although their lives are not depend on me, but they do need supplies and groceries from Raleigh, deal with documents they can't read, and so on. I need them because I still feel attach to them, they feel better and happier to see me around. After all, we came to this foreign land, there was no one else but 3 of us, it's my curtsey to stay around not too far from them. It would be somewhat unfair to them if I decide to cut the core right now.
I think it's better to keep furry as just a hobby, that's good if the fandom can keep you motivated, creative, and income, but I am to this point I don't know how to separate it from my real life. I weigh furrys a lot more than work it seems :P
I am impressed that you could impress your folks after years of practice and keep on with what you are believing. Parents love us no matte what we do in the end, as long as we doing it beautifully, and alive too. A lot of why my parents still pin me down are because they have been educated by the society to believe what they see and hear, if you are a human, it's your duty to do this this and that, if you an't normal everyone will look and laugh at you, and we won't be able to raise our heads. Beyond that point, I simply worries them too much, and yet I can't convince them I am doing fine.........(money, job, lifestylewise, and my connection with Taiwan)
You have been through a lot more than I realized, I would love to hear more of your stories and learn, maybe inspire myself some more :) I haven't decide if I should go back to Taiwan, or stay here, but for now.....Anthrocon come first lol Chinese family seem always worry anything that's not already catch up or better than the rest of the world.
I will look forward to see you soon at AC ! and woooo red panda with something for me?? oh my :D I don't think personally know many red pandas out there, but I will keep my eyes out for this one!
Thank you so much Chilly *hugs tights* thank you :)
I just saw your reply now. I forgot to check my Yahoo Mail.
That can be hard to want to move elsewhere if you're helping with translating things for your family.
I think I moved from Long Island to Northern Virginia with $400. I had a job lined up that paid about $7.75/hr/full-time. It wasn't much, but I had just graduated, visited the house before once, was living with friends, and my (now ex-boyfriend) was living in Richmond, VA. It was a large move, but I didn't regret it.
I hope you stay in the states. There is a lot more freedom in various forms here. There are also a lot of folks who care about you here.
As for keeping it a hobby, I browse FA, read up on a costume messaging group via LJ, the two Furry Cons I do a year, and occasionally visiting friends involved with it is how I keep it on the side. Otherwise, projects are generally "work." They can be fun and creative, but in the end it's generally freelance work.
Unless it engulfs your life 24/7, Furry is fine as a hobby. I know folks that occasionally like to make dog sounds in conversations, think they're the really a wolf inside, and some folks it's a spiritual thing. I am fine with how someone wants to embody it as long as you're not hurting someone or doing anything illegal.
I hung out in a friend's room at AC. There was a muscular guy wearing make-up, a tutu, lace bra, and heals. I'm not phased by much anymore.
Personally, I treat Furry as a hobby more than my life. Currently, it is part of my life since it's my art at the moment with the costumes.
I consider who I keep closest to me in my life my family. I rarely hear from my brother (who wasn't the most mature person growing up or very independent, but I'm sure he's grown up some since 2004 when I moved and probably last saw him), and periodically my folks. I get chastised at times, and when I was 18 my dad told me I couldn't get a job without him or at 19 my costume (Rollie) was a waste of time. 9 years later seeing photos of my work changed his mind. I still get flack from my mom for not dressing or acting like a girl, but seeing her after three years she was happy for me. I generally don't tell my folks about my personal life style choices (which I can talk about in private if you want). I just don't want to deal with opinionated aging NYC Jew parents and only update them that I'm fine, the car's running, I'm still making projects, I'm eating okay, healthy, and Robert is doing fine.
I'm sorry your mom's comparing you to other folks. It seems like a stereotype at times. I met someone at a wedding who's family is Chinese who's mom also did that to her. She's very beautiful, looks a bit like Margret Cho, and is a lil heavy. Not horribly, but enough to have her mom poke at her weight and other things while growing up (mostly school related).
I have something for you also at AC. Look for a red panda with green gift bags (or maybe he'll text you first).
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Hmm me and my family are a bit awkward, we all need each other in certain ways but we never faced the fact that we need each other. When my parents starts complaining about how much they want me to grow and to expend, I expressed my idea of moving to a different state and go see things and work a different job, they dropped their jaws. They know better although their lives are not depend on me, but they do need supplies and groceries from Raleigh, deal with documents they can't read, and so on. I need them because I still feel attach to them, they feel better and happier to see me around. After all, we came to this foreign land, there was no one else but 3 of us, it's my curtsey to stay around not too far from them. It would be somewhat unfair to them if I decide to cut the core right now.
I think it's better to keep furry as just a hobby, that's good if the fandom can keep you motivated, creative, and income, but I am to this point I don't know how to separate it from my real life. I weigh furrys a lot more than work it seems :P
I am impressed that you could impress your folks after years of practice and keep on with what you are believing. Parents love us no matte what we do in the end, as long as we doing it beautifully, and alive too. A lot of why my parents still pin me down are because they have been educated by the society to believe what they see and hear, if you are a human, it's your duty to do this this and that, if you an't normal everyone will look and laugh at you, and we won't be able to raise our heads. Beyond that point, I simply worries them too much, and yet I can't convince them I am doing fine.........(money, job, lifestylewise, and my connection with Taiwan)
You have been through a lot more than I realized, I would love to hear more of your stories and learn, maybe inspire myself some more :) I haven't decide if I should go back to Taiwan, or stay here, but for now.....Anthrocon come first lol Chinese family seem always worry anything that's not already catch up or better than the rest of the world.
I will look forward to see you soon at AC ! and woooo red panda with something for me?? oh my :D I don't think personally know many red pandas out there, but I will keep my eyes out for this one!
Thank you so much Chilly *hugs tights* thank you :)
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That can be hard to want to move elsewhere if you're helping with translating things for your family.
I think I moved from Long Island to Northern Virginia with $400. I had a job lined up that paid about $7.75/hr/full-time. It wasn't much, but I had just graduated, visited the house before once, was living with friends, and my (now ex-boyfriend) was living in Richmond, VA. It was a large move, but I didn't regret it.
I hope you stay in the states. There is a lot more freedom in various forms here. There are also a lot of folks who care about you here.
As for keeping it a hobby, I browse FA, read up on a costume messaging group via LJ, the two Furry Cons I do a year, and occasionally visiting friends involved with it is how I keep it on the side. Otherwise, projects are generally "work." They can be fun and creative, but in the end it's generally freelance work.
Unless it engulfs your life 24/7, Furry is fine as a hobby. I know folks that occasionally like to make dog sounds in conversations, think they're the really a wolf inside, and some folks it's a spiritual thing. I am fine with how someone wants to embody it as long as you're not hurting someone or doing anything illegal.
I hung out in a friend's room at AC. There was a muscular guy wearing make-up, a tutu, lace bra, and heals. I'm not phased by much anymore.
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