"An Eye for An Eye--oh wait, no."
You know what's stupid? Revenge. It's petty and stupid. My parents love
to try and pull crap like that on me and pretend like its for my own
good. I always make a habit of calmly asking why, and how it's going to
help me. My dad usually looks at me and says "you're really
something..." Thanks a lot, I *am* something. Good thing you pointed
that out, you silly dolts.
You see, it wouldn't bother me as much if my parents admitted that what they were doing was just to make them feel better, or that they were doing it to get back at me for somehow having disappointed them. Why can't anyone ever be honest with me? That's the kind of parent I would be. If my kids told me that I was just punishing them to get even, I would say "damn right. Now go clean your room, and give me the phone. Oh, and your new name is Thad, just out of spite." But my parents refuse to admit that what they're doing isn't for me; it's for them.
But of course I don't think that parents should be getting even with your kids. Don't you ever step back to realize that you're not correcting any behaviours by pissing off your kids? Revenge can only facilitate anger equal to or greater than yours. You ground your kids instead of talking to them, and then wonder why teens are so angry. And heaven forbid you should let your kids express their anger the way everyone else does: by yelling at you. (Yes, I mean YOU personally.) Parents, don't you get into arguments with people your own age? It's no different when your kids are mad at you, so how about you listen up, make some sense, and try to defend your position, rather than getting offended because children don't respect your authority. If your rules are shitty, that doesn't mean that your kids should have to listen to them. It's up to you to make them understand, and unless they're stupid, they aren't understanding because your rules are retarded. You haven't earned any special rights by raising your kid, it's your *responsibility,* one that you took on a long time ago, and it doesn't read "by having a kid, he has to swallow all my bullshit, no questions asked." If you can't handle the stresses of having a kid, and you can't admit when you've made a choice that isn't in his or her best interest, you should be a parent.
You see, it wouldn't bother me as much if my parents admitted that what they were doing was just to make them feel better, or that they were doing it to get back at me for somehow having disappointed them. Why can't anyone ever be honest with me? That's the kind of parent I would be. If my kids told me that I was just punishing them to get even, I would say "damn right. Now go clean your room, and give me the phone. Oh, and your new name is Thad, just out of spite." But my parents refuse to admit that what they're doing isn't for me; it's for them.
But of course I don't think that parents should be getting even with your kids. Don't you ever step back to realize that you're not correcting any behaviours by pissing off your kids? Revenge can only facilitate anger equal to or greater than yours. You ground your kids instead of talking to them, and then wonder why teens are so angry. And heaven forbid you should let your kids express their anger the way everyone else does: by yelling at you. (Yes, I mean YOU personally.) Parents, don't you get into arguments with people your own age? It's no different when your kids are mad at you, so how about you listen up, make some sense, and try to defend your position, rather than getting offended because children don't respect your authority. If your rules are shitty, that doesn't mean that your kids should have to listen to them. It's up to you to make them understand, and unless they're stupid, they aren't understanding because your rules are retarded. You haven't earned any special rights by raising your kid, it's your *responsibility,* one that you took on a long time ago, and it doesn't read "by having a kid, he has to swallow all my bullshit, no questions asked." If you can't handle the stresses of having a kid, and you can't admit when you've made a choice that isn't in his or her best interest, you should be a parent.