overflowing optimism

[kleineherbst]

be happy that you are scolded
it means the scolder believes things can be better
i.e. hasn't given up hope on you

there exist people.. who you know have no chance of improving
no matter how much scolding is administered

the scolder does not scold and speaks nicely
it means any minute trace of hope that existed has totally vanished
speaking nicely marks the end of everything