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it strikes me that everyone my age is broken and selfish. I have a group of fantastic friends who are all great people, but they are all single! I was talking with a good friend and heard about her last relationship, another about being content being single, and two of my friends that had been dating for years are no longer together.
In high school (really from 7th grade) I was a part of an incredibly unique group of friends from church, who basically were a functioning authentic christian community, it was awesome. We (now 5 years removed) still find ourselves the closest of friends, closer than anyone we've met at college.
Beyond all our commitments to ministry, and the church, and spiritual depth... none of us have managed to sustain healthy relationships! I'm not sure what's going on, but I just started to see what might be a pattern (at least between 3 of us for sure) of self-indulgent, unhealthy relationships...while most everyone else is monastically single.
I just can't put my finger on what's going on... hopefully, we're all just so mature that we need to wait for everyone our age to catch up, and meanwhile we make bad, impatient decisions. I know that I have some unhealthy patterns in my relationships.
I also wonder if we're all waiting till 30 to get hitched is because of the time it takes to set up a life these days.. or at least how long it takes suburbanites to set up their idealized life. I mean, I really don't want to get married until I have a career-type job. I mean, my grandparents got married like right out of high school, like age 20 and 18... and my parents got married at like 23 and 21. so maybe it just moves 2 years every generation.
I might just still be too selfish (or maybe we all are) I really don't want a girl to impact my ability to get the career I want. and right now, I think a girl would. And maybe the 'right' girl wouldn't, but still the feeling remains.
Does anyone else see this? Think these things? Or am I just crazy?
In high school (really from 7th grade) I was a part of an incredibly unique group of friends from church, who basically were a functioning authentic christian community, it was awesome. We (now 5 years removed) still find ourselves the closest of friends, closer than anyone we've met at college.
Beyond all our commitments to ministry, and the church, and spiritual depth... none of us have managed to sustain healthy relationships! I'm not sure what's going on, but I just started to see what might be a pattern (at least between 3 of us for sure) of self-indulgent, unhealthy relationships...while most everyone else is monastically single.
I just can't put my finger on what's going on... hopefully, we're all just so mature that we need to wait for everyone our age to catch up, and meanwhile we make bad, impatient decisions. I know that I have some unhealthy patterns in my relationships.
I also wonder if we're all waiting till 30 to get hitched is because of the time it takes to set up a life these days.. or at least how long it takes suburbanites to set up their idealized life. I mean, I really don't want to get married until I have a career-type job. I mean, my grandparents got married like right out of high school, like age 20 and 18... and my parents got married at like 23 and 21. so maybe it just moves 2 years every generation.
I might just still be too selfish (or maybe we all are) I really don't want a girl to impact my ability to get the career I want. and right now, I think a girl would. And maybe the 'right' girl wouldn't, but still the feeling remains.
Does anyone else see this? Think these things? Or am I just crazy?