confused about my future with the military
The military is so fucking bogus what the hell, please someone, what the fuck should i do. I do not want to sacrifice everything i have, but yet i do not want to sacrifice my future. And after everything i have read and dug up today, i am going to have to go back into the closet. I went through a lot of bullshit coming out, going back in will be the hardest thing i have done in a long time. my girlfriend cannot even tell me she loves me in a letter unless she signes with a man's name. what kind of bullshit is this.
found on gay military message board-I never asked for permission to kiss my wife on a military installation. I do not wish to parade around naked in a public display. I do not need to perform sexual acts in public to show my pride as a gay person. Listen carefully, and write back if these needs sound familiar.
I WANT TO:
Not have to lie about where I spent my weekend, if it was something as innocuous as having a picnic with my partner.
Not have to lie about the reason I had to stay home and care for my partner who was sick with bronchitis.
Have my partner proudly stand at my side when I retire, and be acknowledge for her contributions to the military. A priviledge afforded to any heterosexual spouse of a service person.
Know that a chaplain will be sent to the home of my partner to inform her that I have been harmed in action or worse killed, and know that she will be comforted as is the right of any spouse of any heterosexual servicemember.
I want to proudly where a ring on my finger on TDY's to let others know that I am taken, and very proud to have given my heart and devotion to one person.
I want to serve my country openly, proudly and without the slightest shame associated with living lies on a daily basis.
These are a few of the things I want, what I know now that I will never get, and for which I mourn. I am officially of the roll call as of May 22, 2001.
It isn't all about being able to have sex with someone in public. It's about being allowed to live with integrity. I am so damned sick of sex being the issue.
god this shit just makes me sick
found on gay military message board-
I was a Korean/French linguist in the Air Force from 91-99. I don't know about the others, but the Air Force is pretty homophobic. I was never suspected, but there were a couple of guys about whom everybody knew. The highest ranking Sgt at my last base, female, was the ringleader of the name-calling, etc... It became the kind of situation where if you weren't making fun of those guys than you must be gay as well, so, I found myself in the situation of having to deride other gays and lesbians to maintain my secrecy. Let me tell ya, that does wonders for your self-esteem. A tip for anyone who finds themselves in that situation however. One of the guys who was being targeted by that female went to the Servicemembers Legal Defense Fund - a free D.C. based legal service for gay and lesbian military members. They helped him get out with full separation pay. He didn't have to pay back his bonus either - an issue for Air Force linguists who have re-enlisted. Just a tip. Eric
found on gay military message board-I never asked for permission to kiss my wife on a military installation. I do not wish to parade around naked in a public display. I do not need to perform sexual acts in public to show my pride as a gay person. Listen carefully, and write back if these needs sound familiar.
I WANT TO:
Not have to lie about where I spent my weekend, if it was something as innocuous as having a picnic with my partner.
Not have to lie about the reason I had to stay home and care for my partner who was sick with bronchitis.
Have my partner proudly stand at my side when I retire, and be acknowledge for her contributions to the military. A priviledge afforded to any heterosexual spouse of a service person.
Know that a chaplain will be sent to the home of my partner to inform her that I have been harmed in action or worse killed, and know that she will be comforted as is the right of any spouse of any heterosexual servicemember.
I want to proudly where a ring on my finger on TDY's to let others know that I am taken, and very proud to have given my heart and devotion to one person.
I want to serve my country openly, proudly and without the slightest shame associated with living lies on a daily basis.
These are a few of the things I want, what I know now that I will never get, and for which I mourn. I am officially of the roll call as of May 22, 2001.
It isn't all about being able to have sex with someone in public. It's about being allowed to live with integrity. I am so damned sick of sex being the issue.
god this shit just makes me sick
found on gay military message board-
I was a Korean/French linguist in the Air Force from 91-99. I don't know about the others, but the Air Force is pretty homophobic. I was never suspected, but there were a couple of guys about whom everybody knew. The highest ranking Sgt at my last base, female, was the ringleader of the name-calling, etc... It became the kind of situation where if you weren't making fun of those guys than you must be gay as well, so, I found myself in the situation of having to deride other gays and lesbians to maintain my secrecy. Let me tell ya, that does wonders for your self-esteem. A tip for anyone who finds themselves in that situation however. One of the guys who was being targeted by that female went to the Servicemembers Legal Defense Fund - a free D.C. based legal service for gay and lesbian military members. They helped him get out with full separation pay. He didn't have to pay back his bonus either - an issue for Air Force linguists who have re-enlisted. Just a tip. Eric