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According to Cosmo:
Tidbit- How guys first said "I love you"
44% blurted it out
17% said it after she did
11% planned it
28% still havent said it
"How Guys Show Their Love"
1. He lends you his most precious possessions
Its true: A guy who's gone gaga for you will happily fork over his mountain bike, laptop, and even his iPod bc he sees it as a chance to show that he's into you. "He knows its possible you could lose the item, but he's willing to make that sacrifice bc he wants to demonstrate how deeply he trusts and cares for you," says relationship expert Susan Quilliam, author of "Body Language." And as any chick who has ever watched her guy spend hrs grooming his ride or rearranging his comic collection knows, men tend to consider certain objects part of their identity; they view their most beloved things as extensions of themselves. "So if he freely offers you soemthing that you know matters a great deal to him, in a way, he's also offering himself," adds Quilliam.
2. He wants to protect you when youre apart
It all goes back to Neanderthal times, when a man's main role was to protec the cave babe he adored. Though you no longer need him to ward off wild animals and marauding tribes, his instinct to guard his girl remains. "Men express their devotion by keeping you safe," explains psychotherapist Tina Tessina, PhD. "Sure he knows that he's supposed to bring you flowers and candy. But when he really cares for you, that innate safety reflex is so strong that he ends up getting you security gadgets you can use if your car breaks down or youre out alone at night."
3. Hes always ready for a photo op with you
The average guy has a twisted relationship with the camera. On the one hand, he gets a kick out of hamming it up with his posse. But when it comes to a shot of just him and the girl he's dating, he can get seriously skittish. "A man likes to think of himself as single and available even when he's involved," says Weiss. "He usually avoids posing with a woman solo, preferring to wave his friends into the photo or invent an excuse for why he cant sit for the camera. He doesnt want anyone who views the picture to assume he's coupled up." So when someone whips out a camera and your dude happily wraps his arm around your shoulder and smiles, its a sign that he's so taken with your that he wants the world to know youre his girl. His devotion runs even deeper if he displays the photo in his office or apartment. "Hes subconsciously informing anyone who might see it--his boss, coworkers, other women--that he's off the market," he adds.
4. He wears the clothes you compliment
If you flatter your man's fashion sense and then notice an uptick in the number of times he wears the item you praised, its a sure sign he's smitten. "Guys tend to play down compliments especially those that concern their apparence," explains Quilliam. "But if the woman he's crazy about signals her approval of his outfit, he's excited and grateful. He shows his appreciation by wearing it again and again.
5. He sits beside you when you eat out
During your 1st dinner date, your guy probably did the normal getting-to-know-you think: he sat across the table from you bc he wanted to see your face and make sure you caught all of his Simpsons references. But an in-love dude would rather sit side by side bc the superclose body contact reinforces his link to you. This seating style also placates a man's natural possessive instinct, conveying to other guys that you 2 are a tight romantic team. "With his body blocking yours, he's subconsciously keeping you out of sight from other men who may try to lure you away," says Quilliam.
6. He shares his food with you
Eating brings out a guys's primal side: without realizing it, he can get possessive abour whats on his plate, guarding his grub and scarfing it down at lightning speed. But when he starts insisting that you sample the best part of his steak or offers you a slice of pie so you can taste how yummy it is, chalk it up to a different animal instinct: the urge to shower some TLC on the woman his heart is doing flip-flops for. "Feeding someone even a small amount of food is a tender, nourishing move all animals, including humans, are predisposed to make in order to show concern and affection," says Quilliam. And if he brings the chow to your mouth with his spoon or fork, consider it a clue that he's feeling superintimate around you. "It shows that he's comfortable in your personal space," she says. Another reason why sharing his meal means so much: "When a man is in love, he wants his girl to experience all the pleasurable things he's experiencing, and that includes his food," says Tessina. "He wont just mumble 'Try some if you want' halfway into the meal. He'll be insistent, so you get the message that your pleasure is paramount to him."
7. He brushes the hair out of your eyes
Any dude who digs you can hold your hand or rub your thigh to communicate his romantic interest. But only a seriously love-struck guy would spontaneously sweep stray locks away from your face. "Reflexive extending his hand so that he gently strokes your head is a very intimate gesture. He's saying he feels so close to you that he cant resist touching you," says Weiss. Brushing your hair back is also a grooming move that in some animals is a precursor to passion. Your guy's fondling your hair parallels this bonding behavior, revealing that not only is he attracted to you but he also has a deeper nurturing feelings toward you. Plus, a spontaneous hair sweep illustrates his possessive instincts. "It signals to others nearby that he's your steady man," Weiss adds.
Too long to read.... I know! But if youre super bored, its kinda interesting! ;)
Tidbit- How guys first said "I love you"
44% blurted it out
17% said it after she did
11% planned it
28% still havent said it
"How Guys Show Their Love"
1. He lends you his most precious possessions
Its true: A guy who's gone gaga for you will happily fork over his mountain bike, laptop, and even his iPod bc he sees it as a chance to show that he's into you. "He knows its possible you could lose the item, but he's willing to make that sacrifice bc he wants to demonstrate how deeply he trusts and cares for you," says relationship expert Susan Quilliam, author of "Body Language." And as any chick who has ever watched her guy spend hrs grooming his ride or rearranging his comic collection knows, men tend to consider certain objects part of their identity; they view their most beloved things as extensions of themselves. "So if he freely offers you soemthing that you know matters a great deal to him, in a way, he's also offering himself," adds Quilliam.
2. He wants to protect you when youre apart
It all goes back to Neanderthal times, when a man's main role was to protec the cave babe he adored. Though you no longer need him to ward off wild animals and marauding tribes, his instinct to guard his girl remains. "Men express their devotion by keeping you safe," explains psychotherapist Tina Tessina, PhD. "Sure he knows that he's supposed to bring you flowers and candy. But when he really cares for you, that innate safety reflex is so strong that he ends up getting you security gadgets you can use if your car breaks down or youre out alone at night."
3. Hes always ready for a photo op with you
The average guy has a twisted relationship with the camera. On the one hand, he gets a kick out of hamming it up with his posse. But when it comes to a shot of just him and the girl he's dating, he can get seriously skittish. "A man likes to think of himself as single and available even when he's involved," says Weiss. "He usually avoids posing with a woman solo, preferring to wave his friends into the photo or invent an excuse for why he cant sit for the camera. He doesnt want anyone who views the picture to assume he's coupled up." So when someone whips out a camera and your dude happily wraps his arm around your shoulder and smiles, its a sign that he's so taken with your that he wants the world to know youre his girl. His devotion runs even deeper if he displays the photo in his office or apartment. "Hes subconsciously informing anyone who might see it--his boss, coworkers, other women--that he's off the market," he adds.
4. He wears the clothes you compliment
If you flatter your man's fashion sense and then notice an uptick in the number of times he wears the item you praised, its a sure sign he's smitten. "Guys tend to play down compliments especially those that concern their apparence," explains Quilliam. "But if the woman he's crazy about signals her approval of his outfit, he's excited and grateful. He shows his appreciation by wearing it again and again.
5. He sits beside you when you eat out
During your 1st dinner date, your guy probably did the normal getting-to-know-you think: he sat across the table from you bc he wanted to see your face and make sure you caught all of his Simpsons references. But an in-love dude would rather sit side by side bc the superclose body contact reinforces his link to you. This seating style also placates a man's natural possessive instinct, conveying to other guys that you 2 are a tight romantic team. "With his body blocking yours, he's subconsciously keeping you out of sight from other men who may try to lure you away," says Quilliam.
6. He shares his food with you
Eating brings out a guys's primal side: without realizing it, he can get possessive abour whats on his plate, guarding his grub and scarfing it down at lightning speed. But when he starts insisting that you sample the best part of his steak or offers you a slice of pie so you can taste how yummy it is, chalk it up to a different animal instinct: the urge to shower some TLC on the woman his heart is doing flip-flops for. "Feeding someone even a small amount of food is a tender, nourishing move all animals, including humans, are predisposed to make in order to show concern and affection," says Quilliam. And if he brings the chow to your mouth with his spoon or fork, consider it a clue that he's feeling superintimate around you. "It shows that he's comfortable in your personal space," she says. Another reason why sharing his meal means so much: "When a man is in love, he wants his girl to experience all the pleasurable things he's experiencing, and that includes his food," says Tessina. "He wont just mumble 'Try some if you want' halfway into the meal. He'll be insistent, so you get the message that your pleasure is paramount to him."
7. He brushes the hair out of your eyes
Any dude who digs you can hold your hand or rub your thigh to communicate his romantic interest. But only a seriously love-struck guy would spontaneously sweep stray locks away from your face. "Reflexive extending his hand so that he gently strokes your head is a very intimate gesture. He's saying he feels so close to you that he cant resist touching you," says Weiss. Brushing your hair back is also a grooming move that in some animals is a precursor to passion. Your guy's fondling your hair parallels this bonding behavior, revealing that not only is he attracted to you but he also has a deeper nurturing feelings toward you. Plus, a spontaneous hair sweep illustrates his possessive instincts. "It signals to others nearby that he's your steady man," Weiss adds.
Too long to read.... I know! But if youre super bored, its kinda interesting! ;)