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I'm starting to get the urge to go out and meet people. I mean, I'd like to meet a guy to flirt with and date, but even if I just met new friends of either gender it would meet the requirements of what I'm feeling. The problem is that I'm afraid of letting my parents know that I'm ready for that step. How silly is that? I mean, I'm 29-years-old!
Everyone's been amazed at how quickly I'm moving through the stages after my divorce. I've just never been the type of person to dwell on what's gone. I'm not into sulking and pining and being all broody. If it's ineveitable that the marriage is over, why not just move on?
I guess my concern is that taking the step to get back out into the social scene is the most public of the stages. Although those closest to me see that I'm not stuck in that depressed stage that so many people get into soon after divorce, will they or others accept that I can move into this stage? Or will everyone think I'm just looking for a rebound relationship or for someone to take care of me? Will everyone assume that I'm looking for happiness outside myself when my primary goal in this situation is to find happiness within?
On the other hand, if that is my primary goal, shouldn't I listen to my instincts? I honestly believe that part of my previous problem was that I had no friendships other than those I have online. I'd lost touch will all my local friends because of one reason or another in the marriage. Perhaps it's just a part of the process as I heal that I crave social companionship. Like I said, it's not even romance that I'm looking for. I'd gladly accept female companionship in a social atmosphere.
I wish there were a way to find a female friend to just hang out with. Someone who would invite me out to a bar, the casino, a movie, or just dinner for girl talk. In that scenerio, it wouldn't matter if I met a guy while I was out. I could have fun with or without meeting someone. The pressure is much more on when you go out by yourself.
Anyone live in Baton Rouge and want to be my social buddy?
Robin
Everyone's been amazed at how quickly I'm moving through the stages after my divorce. I've just never been the type of person to dwell on what's gone. I'm not into sulking and pining and being all broody. If it's ineveitable that the marriage is over, why not just move on?
I guess my concern is that taking the step to get back out into the social scene is the most public of the stages. Although those closest to me see that I'm not stuck in that depressed stage that so many people get into soon after divorce, will they or others accept that I can move into this stage? Or will everyone think I'm just looking for a rebound relationship or for someone to take care of me? Will everyone assume that I'm looking for happiness outside myself when my primary goal in this situation is to find happiness within?
On the other hand, if that is my primary goal, shouldn't I listen to my instincts? I honestly believe that part of my previous problem was that I had no friendships other than those I have online. I'd lost touch will all my local friends because of one reason or another in the marriage. Perhaps it's just a part of the process as I heal that I crave social companionship. Like I said, it's not even romance that I'm looking for. I'd gladly accept female companionship in a social atmosphere.
I wish there were a way to find a female friend to just hang out with. Someone who would invite me out to a bar, the casino, a movie, or just dinner for girl talk. In that scenerio, it wouldn't matter if I met a guy while I was out. I could have fun with or without meeting someone. The pressure is much more on when you go out by yourself.
Anyone live in Baton Rouge and want to be my social buddy?
Robin