tips for self-love
hi, guys, i keep meaning to post and getting distracted. i don't seem to have oomph for follow-through lately. however, i just saw this and shared it on facebook, and i want to share it here too because i have found these tips invaluable and they've made a huge difference in my life and happiness. maybe someone else out there can use them too
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meditate? lol. i read this thing once - big mind, i think the book was called. one of the things he recommended was giving the ... i forget what he called it - the controller, i think it was - something to do. so like, tell it to keep all the other voices quiet. and once you give it a job to do it, it's occupied and happy and it's easier to find the peace of what he called big mind. seriously, what you are talking about is the ego wanting to feel like it's got some control over things. maybe it can't actually control anything, but all that worry and anxiety gives it the feeling that it is doing something very important, lol. when i find that happening, which is less and less now, i just don't worry about it too much but try to just breathe and - well, basic meditation technique, pay attention to the space between thoughts and see if you can stretch it out. they also suggest maybe giving yourself a time limit - i will worry for 15 minutes at 7:30. when worries come up at other time, you remind yourself that you have time scheduled to worry later, and you'll do it then.
one of the ideas i got from louise hay that i love the most is that our thoughts are like a banquet, and we get to choose whichever thoughts we want, so we might as well choose the thought-food that we like better, lol.
and honestly, reading what you said is kind of an awesome check-in for me because i used to have a lot of anxiety and worry, and i really don't have anywhere near that level of that stuff anymore, so that makes me super-happy. it's always nice to see a mirror reflecting back a bit of positive change on my part.
love and hugs.
p.s. i think of the ego as like a giant puppy that hasn't been properly trained yet, lol. sometimes it knocks me down and licks my face, but it doesn't really mean any harm - actually it's trying to save me from certain death, lol - so i regard it with a lot more affectionate acceptance, lol. after all, we are human, so the ego is with us for life. as i read somewhere recently, we think we want to get rid of the ego, and who wants that? the ego, lol. it's the ego talking. so acceptance, but learning not to let it run the show. sometimes i just look at it and name it. 'that's mary judging.' or whatever. it's often judging, lol. that alone takes the charge out.
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