Happiness in Slavery...
I've been reading The Story of O. Anyone who loves BDSM or has read the classical BDSM literature has either read this or will read it. It's not a very long book and I'm more than halfway done with it. I really don't want to finish it. But there is a very poignant underlying point to the story. It's that we are all happier when we are enslaved or tied inevitably to someone or something than we are when we are free. Usually this tends to be a romantic relationship. Sometimes it's not. As a matter of fact we generally struggle with all our might to avoid total freedom without bonds. Even if we are in an unhappy relationship we can't stand that we won't be loved by another anymore. The price that comes with love is generally a type of guilded cage in itself. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that love isn't wonderful and that I'm not just as guilty...but I've watched myself and countless others go through emotional torments that I thought were unfathomable...for another, because of love...or the desire to keep them in love with them, etc. I've watched too many people (as well as myself) also stay in unhealthy relationships...knowing full well that they should get out. But they can't bring themselves to remove their collar and chains as it were. They don't want to relinquish their bonds, no matter how painful they can be; sometimes even enjoying their suffering to some degree. I know that there are those rare few who are actually happier being completely without relationships, but they are few and far between. But those rare few are generally either very cold people or they are very looked down upon by others. It is considered freakish and abnormal if you're single and you don't want a relationship; unless a certain set of rules apply (such as just getting divorced/going through a bad breakup). It's unfashionable to be without some type of bonds. And let's face it. We need them. We are so co-dependent on slavery in it's most invisible form that we are even more caged. And if it's not to a lover, it's to a substance, or a hobby we just couldn't live without. Freedom yet slavery - how ironic.